Making Room for Mom

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When I was pregnant, I was obsessed with watching shows about new parents making room for babies. I even use to watch a series called “Making Room for Baby.” It’s not until my son is three years old going on four, where I am busy every single day preparing lunches, working a full-time and part-time job, and trying to care for an entire family; that I realize that I have failed to make room for me! I have no idea where time for myself has disappeared to. I’ve tried daily to better keep up with my morning devotionals, make more frequent post, journal more, and to take time out to read a book for personal enjoyment, but they all seem to be the most impossible tasks. I’m not sure if it’s that it gets dark earlier, or if I’m just lazier, but making room for mom has become unfeasible.

As a working mom, I frequently feel that I am being pulled in multiple directions. I get to work and must perform for an entire new family (clients, coworkers, and supervisors). While, we all try to give our career our undivided attention throughout the day, it’s not always easy when you still must schedule appointments, make market list, plan meals, and keep your mind from wondering about how else everyone day is going. Most days you find yourself finishing up work, just in time to start a new shift at home. If you are any thing like me, the one thing you look forward to is the car ride home. If your life is truly like mine, that time doesn’t belong to you either. During my rides home, I catch up with friends, return calls from the day, and plan things. By the time my car pulls up to my son’s school my time is up!

I’m sure that this is something that all moms experience at some point in motherhood. It’s moments like now that I don’t exactly feel like a super mom and it sucks. Yet, I remind myself that I’m not perfect and I deserve a spot in my own life as well. As Moms, we must remember that if we don’t choose us daily, there will be no them. Well, maybe, they would somehow make it, just not well! Lol.

Today, I’ve decided to make room for me again! I know that many Moms all over the planet are saying the same thing and failing at it. I’ve accepted that I may fail at it too. However, I believe it’s still worth the try. They say, “Nothing beats a failure, but a try,” so I’ve created some simple ideas of how I’m trying to MAKE MORE ROOM FOR MOM!

  1. Adequate Sleep – There is only one thing worse than a cranky you, and that’s a cranky mom! Unless you ask your husband, because he will swear the absolute worse is a cranky wife! Lol. Part of the cure for crankiness is sleep. Most of us have had months, if not years of sleepless nights. Establish set bedtimes Moms, for EVERYONE. This includes husbands too. They don’t have to go to sleep, they just need to understand that you have a set time that you need to.

 

  1. Waking up a little earlier to have a little more me time – 15 to 20 minutes in the morning can make the world of difference in your day. In my house, early mornings are the only time that everyone is sleep! That means peace and quiet for Mom!!!

 

  1. Prayer – No matter what you believe, take some time out to pray. Cover yourselves and your family.

 

  1. Positive Affirmations – They keep me motivated and encouraged, when everything else is dragging me down. Is a great way to stay uplifted.

 

  1. Hide- sounds crazy, but it works. Sometimes you just need to hide. Some of my favorite hiding places are the bathtub, the back porch and the basement.

Let’s face it moms, we have already learned to live off the bare minimum, that’s just a part of being a mom. Trying something new will not hurt.

Kristina – Kristopher’s Mom

Marriage Chronicles-Part I

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Marriage-A legal joining of two people, a union (dictionary.com)
I’ve been married for 5 years now and I will say that there are some things that my married friends and or family members failed to mention before I tied the knot. Don’t get me wrong, marriage is a beautiful thing, but with the wrong person it can be a disaster. I will also say that before marriage there were some things that I didn’t really consider. Below I’ve compiled a list of things that most people don’t talk about!

I love my husband……but
Although I love my husband I don’t always like him or the things that he does. There- I’ve said it! So now you know that you are not alone in this, Lol. The important thing to remember when these feelings arise is that they are temporary (hopefully, Lol). Try not to lash out or say something really mean that you may regret later. Sometimes it’s not even about your spouse when you feel this way, you may just be tired, hungry, or having a bad day.

Don’t Tell Everybody Your Business-This is some of the best advice that I’ve received. As women we are emotional and when we are upset we sometimes need to vent. This is fine, just be careful who you are venting to. I may be mad at my husband today and back to being his BFF tomorrow. Some people will throw your own words in your face.

Nothing Stays the Same-Most of us don’t think five, ten, or even fifteen years down the line when we are in wedded bliss. Life events happen such as having children, the loss of jobs, parents, and loved ones. When these things happen, they often change us. These major life events will be the true test of your marriage. It’s easy to love someone when everything in life is perfect, but when things get hard, ugly and messy it’s not always so easy.

It’s Ok to Still Be You-Early on in my marriage; I realized that although my husband and I are now a union, we also needed to maintain our individuality. He lets me be me and I let him be him, otherwise we both would have serious resentments.
Maintain a Sense of Humor-It’s important to still have fun together and laugh. Sometimes when the bills won’t stop, the baby won’t sleep, and then something breaks you literally want to scream and sometimes it’s at each other. When this happens find a reason to laugh.

Make Time for Sex-We are all super busy with careers and or raising children. The laundry and housework is never ending. The to-do- list is just that-a list-and it will be there tomorrow. As a working mother and wife, trust me I’m exhausted most of the time and can barely see straight, Lol. Many couples fail to make time to connect sexually and as a result they are even more stressed, angry, and the man is probably pissed and resentful! Sex is important in any relationship, especially a marriage. If someone tells you otherwise then don’t believe them.

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-Kristle (Keith’s Wife)

 

Summer Time Fun on a Budget

Most kids can’t wait until school is out for the summer, but for parents it can be pretty stressful when trying to find activities for them. If you’re a parent who wants to keep your children entertained but you are on a tight budget, do a little online research before choosing activities.

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• Websites like Groupon and Living Social are your friend. They often have affordable deals and activities.

• Check out Home Depot’s website. They often have free monthly activities for children.

• Sometimes children just want to run around and be outside. The playground is always a free option. Annie’s playground in Fallston Maryland is a pretty cool option.

• Storyville at the library is a fun free option. The ages are from newborns to age 5 years.

• Gymboree and My Little Gym are good options for smaller kids. They often have free days where you can take your little one for free play. The ages range from newborn to 5 years old.

• If your budget is really tight, try incorporating at least one free activity such as the library, playground etc., and then you can take your child for ice cream or an inexpensive meal. Most restaurants have inexpensive kids meal options.

• The Baltimore zoo and Aquarium often have days when prices are cheaper.

• Try taking a walk to a park or your local reservoir; it’s free and gives your child the opportunity to explore nature.

• For swimming options, Codorus State park in Pennsylvania has a large pool and a small pool area for babies and toddlers. There is a fee but depending on your child’s height they may be able to swim for free!

Anytime I can find a deal or discount I get excited! Please feel free to share other tips for budget friendly activities for the little ones.

~Kristle (A Budgeting Mom)

 

100 Posts Strong!

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I recently received a notification that Kristina and I have officially posted 100 blog posts to our WordPress website! We are both super excited! We started with just an idea and the goal was to become bloggers, LOL. Today I would say that our goals have expanded. We both love the connection that we make with people and the ability to put something positive out into the universe! In addition, we are both passionate about motherhood and love talking about our sons (LOL), so we figured why not write about them and our experiences of motherhood! It feels really good to look back on previous posts and know that we created something that is entertaining, helpful and so special to us. Kristina and I started when our boys were around 1 ½ and now they are both 3 years old. Whew, time sure does fly! Below I have compiled a few tips for people who would like to start blogging.
1. Blog like no one is reading.
This allows you to be your true and authentic self. I kind of view blogging as a diary; it can be very therapeutic to release your thoughts and ideas.
2. Write about topics that you want to read about.
This is often how I decide what my next topic will be about. We are all super busy, especially those Moms with little babies or super active toddlers LOL, so it’s important to get straight to the point and make the blog interesting.
3. Add pictures.
I find that pictures help to keep people’s attention, especially if the post is lengthy; the pictures kind of break it up. In addition, some people are visual like me, and the pictures help to draw people in.
4. Just don’t quit.
Like anything else consistency is key. Set a realistic expectation and make sure that you hold yourself accountable to it. There are times when you are super busy or life happens to get in the way, don’t get discouraged. Just read and keep blogging.
5. Last but not least…..have fun.
Blogging can be fun, not always but there are times when it is. In order to make blogging fun, be sure to write about fun topics or something that makes you laugh!
-Kristle (A Blogging Mom)
We would like to thank all our followers on Instagram, Facebook and WordPress! If you aren’t following us we are @monumentalmoms on Instagram and Facebook and our website is monumentalmoms.com.

Motivational Monday – Finding Peace

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“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

-Philippians 4:6-7

I am probably one of the most anxious people in the world. I literally worry about everything: the good, bad, and just upcoming. Anxiousness seems to be a natural part of me, but I know that it’s something that can’t stay. Finding peace of mind is important in our daily lives, because that peaceful place is where we can settle safely. Living without a safe place, is like consistently fighting a battle that will never end. We must all be able to have a place in our lives and minds to retreat to. We must voice our needs and trust that they will be delivered, if we are meant to receive them. That’s where most of us struggle. It’s hard to accept that what we want, is not what we always need.

Some ways that I have been finding to get to that place of peace is through prayer, positive affirmations, and walking. Prayer reminds me that there is already someone greater than me, working on my behalf, for all the things I have prayed for, and for the things that I haven’t even thought of. The positive affirmations empower me, and encourage me, to move throughout my day without fear. Lastly, the walks give me a chance to clear my mind, while building my body. We each must find our special place to make peace with ourselves daily. It won’t always be easy, but it will always be worth it!

Dedicate yourself to the good you deserve and desire for yourself. Give yourself peace of mind. You deserve to be happy. You deserve delight.

-Hannah Arendt

 

-Kristina

The Mystery of Dreams

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This week’s post is about dreams. Not our goals and aspiration kind of dreams but the dreams that come to us when we are sleeping. For as long as I can remember, my dreams have seemed very real and vivid and they have been literal. What I mean is that while some people’s dreams mean the opposite of what they dreamed, mine are actually quit literal. I’ve had dreams that friends have gotten new jobs and promotions and it happened. I’ve had several dreams that my friends or associates were pregnant and at some point it has happened. I guess I’m kind of a baby whisperer, Lol.

Before I got pregnant with Kodie, I had a dream that I would have a baby in February. Kodie was born February 5th. Shortly after I found out that I was pregnant I dreamed that he was a boy! For me, dreams have kind of been a way for me to literally process information. Sometimes, if I can’t figure something out the answer will often come to me in a dream. I strongly believe that our dreams have a way of preparing us for the good and bad in life.

So, if you are like me and your dreams are more than just dreams; don’t be afraid and don’t think that something is wrong with you. Remember that we all have different gifts so embrace your uniqueness. We all have the gift of intuition, some just don’t use it.

~Kristle: Kodie’s Mommy

Dreams are illustrations… from the book your soul is writing about you. ~Marsha Norman

A dream which is not interpreted is like a letter which is not read. ~The Talmud

The best thing about dreams is that fleeting moment, when you are between asleep and awake, when you don’t know the difference between reality and fantasy, when for just that one moment you feel with your entire soul that the dream is reality, and it really happened. ~James Arthur Baldwin

Mommy Year

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Welcome to the New Year, Monumental Moms!!! As this year gets started, we just wanted to offer you 12 ways to be an even more amazing mom this year!!

    1.Be silly more: we get so caught up in the day to day hustle, that we forget to cut  lose and be silly with our little ones. They love seeing mom make funny faces and to roll around the with them.

  1. Celebrate something different this year: maybe Valentine Day is not your thing, but it could be a fun time to do crafts with the kids or to teach them about something different.
  1. Plan a vacation somewhere new: kids love visting new places and trying new things. This year find somewhere new and exciting to go. Kids love road trips, boats, planes, and trains.
  1. Find a new game to play: new games, teach new things. Create or purchase a new game, that you can enjoy together.
  1. Clear out the old stuff: kids grow fast, so managing clutter is a must. Clear out old clothes, shoes, and toys. It will save you space and stress!
  1. Go on adventures together: exploring and discovering new things is one of the best ways to build a bond. Go out as often as you can; hike new trials, visit new museums, go to new parks, or just explore nature.
  1. Be more understanding: as Moms and adults, we don’t always understand the things that seem small to us, but are big to them. Try to be more understanding of their needs, wants, and fears.
  1. Add new reading material to your home library: a new year, means your child is getting older, and is eager to learn about new things. Reading is one of the most important things to do with your little one, so take out a little more time, to read together.
  1. Eliminate a bad behavior: our children aren’t perfect and can all improve. This year, work on eliminating at least one of their negative behaviors. Address the behavior, and be firm about resolving it.
  1. Take out some time for Daddy too: as Moms, we get so caught up in our little ones, that we forget our Big one!! Daddy’s/Husbands, are like kids too. They need just as much love and affection. Don’t forget to love on them a little extra as well.
  1. Say “yes,” to yourself more: set the money aside for hair and nail appointments. Go to see movies you like alone, have more girls nights, and treat yourself more. If you lose you, you lose part of what makes you the great mom that you are. A happy you, equals a happy everyone else!
  2. Pray More: Prayer helps us Moms to keep our sanity, to worry less, and to have inner peace.

 

Kristina – Kristopher’s Mom

Motivational Monday – Self-Control

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For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love.

                                                                                                                                       2 Peter 1:5-7

This is your year to improve your life in any way that you see fit. As the new year begins we are all eager to make changes that will hopefully lead to better lives. The problem with that is, no matter how much weight we want to lose or how much we want to spend less; if we lack self-control, we lack the discipline and courage to truly make any meaningful changes in our lives. Without self-control, we don’t possess the spirit we need to move through the challenges that await us. As we plan and create our resolutions, be sure to prepare for them and pray for the self-control that we need to take them on. Not matter what goals we set, we must be strong and resilient when working towards them. Self-control, is what will keep us from back sliding and cheating ourselves.

This year, as we set out on a new path let’s first get our self-control in order. Gaining self-control requires us to:

  1. Set realistic goals with realistic outcomes
  2. Know what it is that you are trying to control (impulsive behaviors, overspending)
  3. Find an important reason that we fully understand, as to why this goal needs to be met
  4. Motivate yourself to prepare to reach your goal
  5. Know that you can conquer anything that you put your mind to

Good luck Monumental Moms!!!

“I have learned that I really do have discipline, self-control, and patience. But they were given to me as a seed, and it’s up to me to choose to develop them.”

                                                                                                                                                –  Joyce Meyer

 

-Kristina

Being a Monumental Mom – 2016

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Before this year comes to an end, we wanted to thank everyone who has read our weekly post and our motivational Monday post, liked and followed us on Facebook and Instagram, and anyone that has supported us. When we first ventured out to start Monumental Moms we had no idea what we would talk about, doubted that people would follow us, and couldn’t figure out when we were going to find time to write anything with careers, husbands, and toddlers! Honestly, I don’t think that we still really know how we get it all done, but we do. If I had to select one reason why we push through with posts, motivation, funny memes, etc., it would be because we love Monumental Moms. Over this year, it has become our extra child. We enjoy being able to touch the lives of others through sharing our stories and thoughts. If we just have one follower, that’s one life that we are speaking to in a positive way, and that’s what it’s all about.

For 2017, we hope to reach even more Monumental women, and to find some new ideas, topics, images, and quotes to post. More importantly, we hope to continue to inspire and motivate. We all have that day that we feel as if it’s all falling apart. Those moments where we aren’t sure if we should laugh or run for the hills! Being a woman is hard enough, but when you add being a wife and mother to your list, it gets even harder. Empowering each other is what will encourage many of us to apply for that promotion, try a new haircut, go on an adventure, love freely, laugh instead of crying, or try something new with our kids. We aim to be a network of strength and love!

This upcoming year, it’s our goal to share a little more of ourselves with all of you. We hope to add a “Wednesday Wife,” addition to our blogs. We’ve share the funny, horrific, and joyous moments of being mothers, but being a wife is just as entertaining, difficult, and amazing! It’s also our hope that in 2017, each of you will step outside of your comfort zone, and do something different, scary, or fun that you have been putting off. You may not get the immediate support, or increase that you would like from it, but the blessed feeling that it will give you for trying, will be enough!

Happy Holidays Everyone!!! 

Learn To Be Present During The Holidays

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With the holidays quickly approaching, it’s really easy to lose track of what’s really important and to get caught up in the hype of it all. It’s so easy to over analyze every detail, especially if you’re hosting, or to overspend on Christmas presents. Trust me, when you think back to the memories with your loved ones who one day won’t be around, you won’t remember the food or mistakes or the burned whatever.

You probably won’t even remember who brought you what or the things that you brought for presents that year, however, if you take the time to live in the moment and be present you will remember the feelings, the hugs, the laughs,  the kisses and the smells. Be sure to take plenty of pictures! We all get so busy and preoccupied with entertaining, talking, socializing, etc. that we don’t take as many pictures as we would have liked to. Pictures are not for today they are for the future.

Although I took several pictures with my mother I didn’t take nearly enough! I yearn for the days when we were all too busy being consumed with who knows what or arguing over the dumbest stuff, LOL! This holiday season hug your mother, father, sister, cousin, etc. a little longer and a little tighter because a lot can change in a year. Also try to remember that for some of us this is a hard time of year. So many people are grieving for their loved ones that have passed on.

For me the holidays will never be the same without my mom, but I try my best for my son. I’m thankful to have my dad but a mother’s love is simply irreplaceable. The best advice that I can give people who still have their moms is cherish them and soak up every moment that you can by being present with them. Live your life in a way that you won’t have any regrets.

~Kristle (Kodie’s Mommy)