A Letter to My Husband

Have you ever just wanted to write your husband a letter, or better yet; just tell him off? Maybe, some of you are blessed to have the amazing husbands that clean up at home, help attentively with the kids and don’t drive you even crazier than you already are! Me, I’m well….. let’s just say I have the husband that God saw fit to give me. Lol. There are days that I come home completely exhausted from work and I still must figure it all out, while my husband seems to be way too tired from his hardworking job!! So, if I could write him a letter it would go like this….. 

Dear Husband, 

 Where I totally understand that you work oh so hard, I just wanted to remind you that so do I. I’m not sure if you remember, but this morning I woke up and got dressed for work too, and right after I finished getting me dressed I got a cranky three your old dressed as well. I stood in the bathroom while he peed and brushed his teeth, when I really needed to make the bed and start his quick breakfast. No worries though, because once he finished I did all of that! 

I went to work and worked all day, just like you! I had to both listen to and resolve the problems of an entire caseload with a smile. And, when my supervisor asked me to do something 5 minutes before it was time to go, I did that too. Don’t fret though, I still made it to pick up our son and as soon as he got into the car I listened to all of his stories and was able to resolve where his missing Spider-Man was. 

When I walked into the house door, I wasn’t greeted by cheer, but the pressure of preparing for the morning. I packed a lunch, prepared bath time, completed homework and learning time, cooked dinner, and wiped up crumbs that both you and my stepson seem to not see on the island or floor after you eat. I also, swept the kitchen floor up to clear away any extra food that was dropped and emptied the overflowing kitchen trash can that is only visible to me. Once all my maid duties were done I read a story to our son and tried to watch a part of something on television before drifting off to sleep.  

I’m sure you’re wondering the purpose of this letter. The next time you want some special adult time or wonder why Mom is in such a funk, read this until you figure it out!  

Love

Your Wife

LOL!!! Sometimes we just need to get a few things off our chest. When you want to kill you husbands next time Monumentals, just write a little letter for yourself. If you’re feeling bold go ahead and leave it on his pillow. Just don’t be alarmed if he doesn’t really get it! Lol 

Kristina – The Wife

Summer Time Fun on a Budget

Most kids can’t wait until school is out for the summer, but for parents it can be pretty stressful when trying to find activities for them. If you’re a parent who wants to keep your children entertained but you are on a tight budget, do a little online research before choosing activities.

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• Websites like Groupon and Living Social are your friend. They often have affordable deals and activities.

• Check out Home Depot’s website. They often have free monthly activities for children.

• Sometimes children just want to run around and be outside. The playground is always a free option. Annie’s playground in Fallston Maryland is a pretty cool option.

• Storyville at the library is a fun free option. The ages are from newborns to age 5 years.

• Gymboree and My Little Gym are good options for smaller kids. They often have free days where you can take your little one for free play. The ages range from newborn to 5 years old.

• If your budget is really tight, try incorporating at least one free activity such as the library, playground etc., and then you can take your child for ice cream or an inexpensive meal. Most restaurants have inexpensive kids meal options.

• The Baltimore zoo and Aquarium often have days when prices are cheaper.

• Try taking a walk to a park or your local reservoir; it’s free and gives your child the opportunity to explore nature.

• For swimming options, Codorus State park in Pennsylvania has a large pool and a small pool area for babies and toddlers. There is a fee but depending on your child’s height they may be able to swim for free!

Anytime I can find a deal or discount I get excited! Please feel free to share other tips for budget friendly activities for the little ones.

~Kristle (A Budgeting Mom)

 

Waves and Water

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Summer is quickly approaching and vacation season has officially started. It’s that time of year where families will start venturing off to beaches, pools, water parks, amusement parks, and plenty of other places where our little people get wet. The number one thing that we want to be sure of when sending our little ones out to play in the water and sun is that we are prepared. Before you have your kids start their adventure, be sure to get some enjoyable books to share with your one about their upcoming escapade. The will help them learn more about water, and water safety. It will also get them even more excited. You should consider investing in swimming courses as well for your children. According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention one out of every five people that die from drowning are under the age of 14. Swimming is an important skill for your kids to have and we can never be too safe. Now that we’ve looked at the basics, let’s review some additional water essentials:

Don’t forget:

-Water shoes are a must- let’s prevent any foot fungus or that nasty feeling from just walking around in nasty changing rooms, bathrooms, or having to get extra sand from between small toes.  Water shoes are an immense help. They provide coverage for the foot, while keeping their feet clean, and away from bumpy rocks.

-Life guard jackets: head to the store and purchase a life guard certified jacket for your little one. Don’t depend on faculties always having their sizes, or that they just won’t go that far in at the beach. It’s always important to be safe when water is involved.

-Purchase water proof phone cases to capture all the best pictures: you don’t want to miss a moment. You want to catch them running out when the water splashes up to surprise them, or they jump their first wave.

-Plan to spend endless hours wet: getting a kid to leave the water is nearly impossible! No matter how tired or hungry they are, they will refuse to leave no matter what!! Most kids are just naturally drawn to water!

-Sunscreen if it’s a day at the beach: never forget the sunscreen. The skin of children is a lot more sensitive than adults and burns a lot faster. Be sure to purchase a waterproof sunscreen to cover their skin.

-Ear plugs: if your child is ear infection prone, if you have a “splasher,” or a child who plays near one, ear plugs may be a clever idea. Water can get trapped in the ear and create a swimmer’s ear, causing a bad ear ache. Ear plugs help prevent this.

-Eye Protection: if your little one is a glasses wearer like mine, you will need a strap or another form of glasses to offer vision assistance when splashing around in and out of water.

 

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Here’s a few reasons why water play is important:

Decreases fear of water

Builds confidence

Good exercise

Increases social development from interaction with other kids

In younger children, it assists with developing fine motor skills. The squirting, pouring, and squeezing.

I’ll be posting some great places to take your kids to have some fun in the water and sun as well. Where it can be a lot of work to get out the house, and a long day at park or beach with your little one, I promise you that it will always be worth it!!!

I hope that your summer is full of splashes, sun, and fun!!

– Kristina (Kristopher’s Mom)

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100 Posts Strong!

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I recently received a notification that Kristina and I have officially posted 100 blog posts to our WordPress website! We are both super excited! We started with just an idea and the goal was to become bloggers, LOL. Today I would say that our goals have expanded. We both love the connection that we make with people and the ability to put something positive out into the universe! In addition, we are both passionate about motherhood and love talking about our sons (LOL), so we figured why not write about them and our experiences of motherhood! It feels really good to look back on previous posts and know that we created something that is entertaining, helpful and so special to us. Kristina and I started when our boys were around 1 ½ and now they are both 3 years old. Whew, time sure does fly! Below I have compiled a few tips for people who would like to start blogging.
1. Blog like no one is reading.
This allows you to be your true and authentic self. I kind of view blogging as a diary; it can be very therapeutic to release your thoughts and ideas.
2. Write about topics that you want to read about.
This is often how I decide what my next topic will be about. We are all super busy, especially those Moms with little babies or super active toddlers LOL, so it’s important to get straight to the point and make the blog interesting.
3. Add pictures.
I find that pictures help to keep people’s attention, especially if the post is lengthy; the pictures kind of break it up. In addition, some people are visual like me, and the pictures help to draw people in.
4. Just don’t quit.
Like anything else consistency is key. Set a realistic expectation and make sure that you hold yourself accountable to it. There are times when you are super busy or life happens to get in the way, don’t get discouraged. Just read and keep blogging.
5. Last but not least…..have fun.
Blogging can be fun, not always but there are times when it is. In order to make blogging fun, be sure to write about fun topics or something that makes you laugh!
-Kristle (A Blogging Mom)
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Motivational Monday – Finding Peace

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“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

-Philippians 4:6-7

I am probably one of the most anxious people in the world. I literally worry about everything: the good, bad, and just upcoming. Anxiousness seems to be a natural part of me, but I know that it’s something that can’t stay. Finding peace of mind is important in our daily lives, because that peaceful place is where we can settle safely. Living without a safe place, is like consistently fighting a battle that will never end. We must all be able to have a place in our lives and minds to retreat to. We must voice our needs and trust that they will be delivered, if we are meant to receive them. That’s where most of us struggle. It’s hard to accept that what we want, is not what we always need.

Some ways that I have been finding to get to that place of peace is through prayer, positive affirmations, and walking. Prayer reminds me that there is already someone greater than me, working on my behalf, for all the things I have prayed for, and for the things that I haven’t even thought of. The positive affirmations empower me, and encourage me, to move throughout my day without fear. Lastly, the walks give me a chance to clear my mind, while building my body. We each must find our special place to make peace with ourselves daily. It won’t always be easy, but it will always be worth it!

Dedicate yourself to the good you deserve and desire for yourself. Give yourself peace of mind. You deserve to be happy. You deserve delight.

-Hannah Arendt

 

-Kristina

Tips for the Expecting Mom

I’ve compiled some tips that I would not only use myself, but I would offer to an expecting first time mom. You can never fully prepare for the drastic change of motherhood, but you can try to plan as best as possible.
1. Take a vacation with your spouse.
It can be a weekend getaway, but it’s important to savor the alone time because once the baby comes, it might be a while before you two get some alone time!

2. Treat yourself to something really nice!
Now is the time to splurge before the baby’s arrival LOL! I mean it! Truly treat yourself to something that you have been eyeing but just haven’t purchased because you are trying to be practical. Trust me, once the baby is born your finances and priorities change! Your needs, wants, and desires will take a backseat immediately!

3. Savor the quietness.
Once you have a baby there won’t be a lot of quiet time. Especially if the baby is hungry, sleepy, teething, etc. I never realized how much I liked the quiet until I became a mom, LOL!

4. Appreciate your body now!
I have a few friends who don’t have children yet and they are often really critical of their bodies. Although your body may not be perfect pre-baby it will definitely be different after growing and birthing a baby.

5. Live in the moment.
Be adventurous and do things that you would not normally do before the baby comes. Getting out of our own comfort zone is hard! But once you become a mother, you feel a sense of empowerment and feel that you can do almost anything! You just may not have the time to do it, LOL!

6. Sleep now while you can!
Sleep like you’ve never slept before, LOL!! If you are tired, take a nap. If you are bored, tap a nap. If you are feeling adventurous take off work and take a nap! Sleep will never be the same post-baby, even once they sleep throughout the night your sleeping habits are never the same. You are on constant alert even when sleeping, LOL.

7. Cook and Freeze.
Once the baby comes, you won’t feel like cooking for a while. Toward the end of your pregnancy, cook some of your favorite foods and freeze them. You will thank yourself later!

To other moms, please feel free to leave some of your tips that you would give to an expecting Mom!
​Kristle~Kodie’s Mommy

Life as Mom

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Today, I realized that motherhood with a toddler is going to send me to the Nut house. If you have/had a toddler (especially a boy), you already know what I’m talking about. Toddlers have a way of pushing you as far as you can go, and my son specializes in doing just that. He absolutely loves to do all the things that he shouldn’t. If there’s a puddle and he has on cloth tennis, he will jump in it. He licks random things for no reason at all, and climbs things, just to jump off. Boogies and passing gas, are the new funniest things in life. And, if I’m washing clothes I must guard the washer while open with my life, so that every item in the home doesn’t go into it. There is no rest as a toddler mom.

As if the behavior is not enough, the questions alone make my head spin. The other day when he spotted a squirrel running up the street, he asked me what squirrel poop smelled like. I was speechless, I mean it’s a great question, but how am I to know? I can’t recall ever smelling or seeing squirrel poop! It is days later, and I’m still trying to figure out where squirrels poop at! As a new toddler mom, I’m a little confused at how I’m supposed to know answers to all the things his mind comes up with!! And, I’m sure the questions will only get harder as he gets older!!! Just the other day he was drinking some juice and then went to use the bathroom. When he returned, he asked me if the pee in the pot was the juice he just drank, or the water that he drank earlier. I just stood there thinking……. now I’m expected to be pee expert! LOL.

Along with behaviors and toddler questions, I deal with the “let me create this,” inventions. My son creates all types of things, and I love his little imagination, but some days I’m too tired to redirect his ideas in a direction that doesn’t destroy our home or household products. I’ve frequently caught him taking all the toilet tissue off the rolls, so that he can use the roll for a telescope.

To the toddler moms out here making it one day at a time, know that you are not alone and these crazy moments wont last forever. One day they will grow up, and we will miss those wild behaviors, crazy questions, and cute little inventions. Enjoy these little moments Moms, because they will be the ones you want to remember the most.

-Kristina (Kristopher’s Tired Mom)

Mommy Bloggers

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Kristina and I initially came up with the idea of blogging when Kodie and Kristopher were still babies; however, we didn’t actually start blogging until the boys were around a year and a half. We had so many great ideas but fear stood in the way! I have to admit that before I started blogging, my perception was very distorted LOL. I just knew that Kristina and I would be an overnight success! I just knew that we would take off running and we would have thousands of followers with all of this success but the reality is that like anything else, success does not happen overnight. Below are some tips for people who are new to blogging or for people who may be having some growing pains in life:

1). Just Do It
Taking action is the first step to anything. You can have all of the ideas in the world but if you don’t put them into action then they mean nothing. My very first post was about stepping out of your comfort zone. In that post I talk about how you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone and stop talking yourself out of things. I literally push myself every time I write a post LOL, but once it’s done I feel good.
2). Don’t Be So Serious
Life is hard, work is hard, and raising children is hard! Don’t make blogging so serious. My job is actually pretty serious but I love to laugh so I guess that’s a conundrum. I find ways to still have fun while at work; otherwise all of the seriousness would get to me LOL. Find ways to laugh even if it’s at yourself! I often try to have humor in my posts because I have enough seriousness in the day to day LOL.
3). Don’t Be So Critical of Yourself
You’re going to make mistakes such as spelling errors and grammatical errors but it’s ok; it’s not the end of the world! Don’t over analyze your post. The main thing is to write it and then post it!
4). You Will Want to Give Up
There are weeks when I literally wait until the last minute to write a post because either I could not think of a good topic or I just don’t really feel like it. Sometimes, I will almost convince myself not to do it at all because we don’t have a lot of readers who read our blog, but then I just do it! Why? Because after I write a post I feel a sense of accomplishment and even if we don’t have thousands of followers yet, there are some people who support and enjoy our posts.
5). Consistency is Key
Even on those days when you don’t feel like blogging, just think of the big picture. The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is that the successful person kept going until they reached their goal, whereas the unsuccessful person stopped probably right before they reached their goal. This can apply to many aspects of life such as eating healthy, working out etc.
6). Have Fun Blogging
I’ve come to think of blogging as an outlet. Sometimes it helps to just release whatever thoughts or feelings you have. Even if blogging isn’t your full time job and you don’t get paid to do it, you can still make if fun.

~Kristle (a Mommy Blogger)

“Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm.” Sir Winston Churchill

“The value of an idea lies in the using of it.” Thomas Edison

“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.” Albert Einstein

“The harder the conflict, the greater the triumph.” George Washington

“Write what you know.” Mark Twain

The Mystery of Dreams

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This week’s post is about dreams. Not our goals and aspiration kind of dreams but the dreams that come to us when we are sleeping. For as long as I can remember, my dreams have seemed very real and vivid and they have been literal. What I mean is that while some people’s dreams mean the opposite of what they dreamed, mine are actually quit literal. I’ve had dreams that friends have gotten new jobs and promotions and it happened. I’ve had several dreams that my friends or associates were pregnant and at some point it has happened. I guess I’m kind of a baby whisperer, Lol.

Before I got pregnant with Kodie, I had a dream that I would have a baby in February. Kodie was born February 5th. Shortly after I found out that I was pregnant I dreamed that he was a boy! For me, dreams have kind of been a way for me to literally process information. Sometimes, if I can’t figure something out the answer will often come to me in a dream. I strongly believe that our dreams have a way of preparing us for the good and bad in life.

So, if you are like me and your dreams are more than just dreams; don’t be afraid and don’t think that something is wrong with you. Remember that we all have different gifts so embrace your uniqueness. We all have the gift of intuition, some just don’t use it.

~Kristle: Kodie’s Mommy

Dreams are illustrations… from the book your soul is writing about you. ~Marsha Norman

A dream which is not interpreted is like a letter which is not read. ~The Talmud

The best thing about dreams is that fleeting moment, when you are between asleep and awake, when you don’t know the difference between reality and fantasy, when for just that one moment you feel with your entire soul that the dream is reality, and it really happened. ~James Arthur Baldwin

Motherhood is Happening for You

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Motherhood is happening for you and not to you….
This is one of the most profound quotes that I’ve heard! I was listening to “The Mama Truth Show which is a Podcast” (sidenote…..this podcast is amazing) when I heard this statement I literally had an Aha moment! If you ask any Mom about motherhood, they will admit that it can be really rough at times. It literally is a 24-hour job, with no clock out time and no end date. When you’re in the midst of dealing with a full-fledged delirious screaming toddler sometimes you just want to scream too, LOL.
For me, it can be really stressful when trying to get out of the house in the morning for work with my little toddler. This morning was a rough morning for me; my toddler was testing me. Who Am I kidding-Kodie is always testing me! Every day is a test, sometimes multiple times a day! After getting myself and Kodie fully dressed, I told Kodie to sit on the pot. He sat on the pot and insisted that he did not need to use the bathroom, however minutes later while brushing his teeth he decided that he was just going to “pee on himself” and that’s what he did! When he first told me that he peed I just knew that he was playing with me, LOL! Well the joke was on me because he did actually pee on himself! His clothes were completely soaked in urine and I was already running late and I just wanted to scream! After changing Kodie’s entire outfit, we finally managed to make it out of the house and I was only a little late for work.
Motherhood is happening for you and not to you. To me this means that although being a mother can be really challenging it’s not meant to harden or bring out the worst in you, in fact it’s supposed to empower you and push you to be the best version of yourself. Motherhood is happening for you….for most women once you become a mother you actually become less selfish and self- absorbed. You realize that the world does not revolve around you. Most mothers are actually better people post motherhood. Motherhood is not happening to you….In spite of all of the craziness and madness your child is not out to drive you crazy because they actually really do love you, sometimes they just don’t know how to show it, LOL. The beautiful part of motherhood is watching the little person that you helped create become his or her own person with their own likes, dislikes, and opinions.
“Motherhood is a monumental event”!-Monumental Moms
Kristle- A monumental mom