A Letter to My Husband

Have you ever just wanted to write your husband a letter, or better yet; just tell him off? Maybe, some of you are blessed to have the amazing husbands that clean up at home, help attentively with the kids and don’t drive you even crazier than you already are! Me, I’m well….. let’s just say I have the husband that God saw fit to give me. Lol. There are days that I come home completely exhausted from work and I still must figure it all out, while my husband seems to be way too tired from his hardworking job!! So, if I could write him a letter it would go like this….. 

Dear Husband, 

 Where I totally understand that you work oh so hard, I just wanted to remind you that so do I. I’m not sure if you remember, but this morning I woke up and got dressed for work too, and right after I finished getting me dressed I got a cranky three your old dressed as well. I stood in the bathroom while he peed and brushed his teeth, when I really needed to make the bed and start his quick breakfast. No worries though, because once he finished I did all of that! 

I went to work and worked all day, just like you! I had to both listen to and resolve the problems of an entire caseload with a smile. And, when my supervisor asked me to do something 5 minutes before it was time to go, I did that too. Don’t fret though, I still made it to pick up our son and as soon as he got into the car I listened to all of his stories and was able to resolve where his missing Spider-Man was. 

When I walked into the house door, I wasn’t greeted by cheer, but the pressure of preparing for the morning. I packed a lunch, prepared bath time, completed homework and learning time, cooked dinner, and wiped up crumbs that both you and my stepson seem to not see on the island or floor after you eat. I also, swept the kitchen floor up to clear away any extra food that was dropped and emptied the overflowing kitchen trash can that is only visible to me. Once all my maid duties were done I read a story to our son and tried to watch a part of something on television before drifting off to sleep.  

I’m sure you’re wondering the purpose of this letter. The next time you want some special adult time or wonder why Mom is in such a funk, read this until you figure it out!  

Love

Your Wife

LOL!!! Sometimes we just need to get a few things off our chest. When you want to kill you husbands next time Monumentals, just write a little letter for yourself. If you’re feeling bold go ahead and leave it on his pillow. Just don’t be alarmed if he doesn’t really get it! Lol 

Kristina – The Wife

How To Protect Your Energy From Negativity

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When it comes to people’s energy, I’m really sensitive to it. I can feel if people are genuine or fake; even when they try really hard I can tell. Some people just give me bad vibes, it doesn’t have to be something that they have done but it’s the vibes that they give off. We all give off energy, whether good or bad. Energy can also be contagious. Have you ever noticed that when someone is in bad place and being really negative you start to feel negative as well? The same can be said with positive people with positive energy. Some people are like sunshine and you just want to soak up their good vibes, Lol!

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Since becoming a mother I’ve realized that my patience with people is very thin, especially when it comes to negative people. I try my best to avoid people and situations that can turn my positive energy into negative energy. However; we all have family members or coworkers that you simply can’t avoid forever. Below are some tips on how to protect your energy.

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1. Don’t engage the person and negativity.
When a person’s energy is off and they are expelling negativity, don’t engage them. If you do, the negativity just grows and you will find yourself in a negative state.

2. Avoid drama.
Drama and negativity go hand and hand. A person that’s full of drama has a lot of negativity around them, even if they don’t know it. Some people just can’t seem to get away from drama; but what kind of energy are they releasing into the universe?!

3. Control your own thoughts.
It’s very easy to get overwhelmed with work, life, children, etc and when that happens, our thoughts sometimes end up on the dark side. When feeling overwhelmed, take a step back and refocus. Instead of complaining, embrace gratitude and your attitude will change instantly!

4. Be careful what you focus on.
Have you ever noticed that the more energy you put into something the stronger the feeling or emotion becomes? If you are a worrier, then the more you worry about the problem the worse it becomes! Before you know it you are stressed out and have all sorts of crazy thoughts and scenarios in your head!

5. Be responsible for the energy that you bring.
It’s important to check yourself and your own energy. Life happens but how we respond to it is the true test.

~Kristle (Kodie’s Mommy)

Marriage Chronicles-Part I

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Marriage-A legal joining of two people, a union (dictionary.com)
I’ve been married for 5 years now and I will say that there are some things that my married friends and or family members failed to mention before I tied the knot. Don’t get me wrong, marriage is a beautiful thing, but with the wrong person it can be a disaster. I will also say that before marriage there were some things that I didn’t really consider. Below I’ve compiled a list of things that most people don’t talk about!

I love my husband……but
Although I love my husband I don’t always like him or the things that he does. There- I’ve said it! So now you know that you are not alone in this, Lol. The important thing to remember when these feelings arise is that they are temporary (hopefully, Lol). Try not to lash out or say something really mean that you may regret later. Sometimes it’s not even about your spouse when you feel this way, you may just be tired, hungry, or having a bad day.

Don’t Tell Everybody Your Business-This is some of the best advice that I’ve received. As women we are emotional and when we are upset we sometimes need to vent. This is fine, just be careful who you are venting to. I may be mad at my husband today and back to being his BFF tomorrow. Some people will throw your own words in your face.

Nothing Stays the Same-Most of us don’t think five, ten, or even fifteen years down the line when we are in wedded bliss. Life events happen such as having children, the loss of jobs, parents, and loved ones. When these things happen, they often change us. These major life events will be the true test of your marriage. It’s easy to love someone when everything in life is perfect, but when things get hard, ugly and messy it’s not always so easy.

It’s Ok to Still Be You-Early on in my marriage; I realized that although my husband and I are now a union, we also needed to maintain our individuality. He lets me be me and I let him be him, otherwise we both would have serious resentments.
Maintain a Sense of Humor-It’s important to still have fun together and laugh. Sometimes when the bills won’t stop, the baby won’t sleep, and then something breaks you literally want to scream and sometimes it’s at each other. When this happens find a reason to laugh.

Make Time for Sex-We are all super busy with careers and or raising children. The laundry and housework is never ending. The to-do- list is just that-a list-and it will be there tomorrow. As a working mother and wife, trust me I’m exhausted most of the time and can barely see straight, Lol. Many couples fail to make time to connect sexually and as a result they are even more stressed, angry, and the man is probably pissed and resentful! Sex is important in any relationship, especially a marriage. If someone tells you otherwise then don’t believe them.

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-Kristle (Keith’s Wife)

 

Summer Time Fun on a Budget

Most kids can’t wait until school is out for the summer, but for parents it can be pretty stressful when trying to find activities for them. If you’re a parent who wants to keep your children entertained but you are on a tight budget, do a little online research before choosing activities.

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• Websites like Groupon and Living Social are your friend. They often have affordable deals and activities.

• Check out Home Depot’s website. They often have free monthly activities for children.

• Sometimes children just want to run around and be outside. The playground is always a free option. Annie’s playground in Fallston Maryland is a pretty cool option.

• Storyville at the library is a fun free option. The ages are from newborns to age 5 years.

• Gymboree and My Little Gym are good options for smaller kids. They often have free days where you can take your little one for free play. The ages range from newborn to 5 years old.

• If your budget is really tight, try incorporating at least one free activity such as the library, playground etc., and then you can take your child for ice cream or an inexpensive meal. Most restaurants have inexpensive kids meal options.

• The Baltimore zoo and Aquarium often have days when prices are cheaper.

• Try taking a walk to a park or your local reservoir; it’s free and gives your child the opportunity to explore nature.

• For swimming options, Codorus State park in Pennsylvania has a large pool and a small pool area for babies and toddlers. There is a fee but depending on your child’s height they may be able to swim for free!

Anytime I can find a deal or discount I get excited! Please feel free to share other tips for budget friendly activities for the little ones.

~Kristle (A Budgeting Mom)

 

100 Posts Strong!

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I recently received a notification that Kristina and I have officially posted 100 blog posts to our WordPress website! We are both super excited! We started with just an idea and the goal was to become bloggers, LOL. Today I would say that our goals have expanded. We both love the connection that we make with people and the ability to put something positive out into the universe! In addition, we are both passionate about motherhood and love talking about our sons (LOL), so we figured why not write about them and our experiences of motherhood! It feels really good to look back on previous posts and know that we created something that is entertaining, helpful and so special to us. Kristina and I started when our boys were around 1 ½ and now they are both 3 years old. Whew, time sure does fly! Below I have compiled a few tips for people who would like to start blogging.
1. Blog like no one is reading.
This allows you to be your true and authentic self. I kind of view blogging as a diary; it can be very therapeutic to release your thoughts and ideas.
2. Write about topics that you want to read about.
This is often how I decide what my next topic will be about. We are all super busy, especially those Moms with little babies or super active toddlers LOL, so it’s important to get straight to the point and make the blog interesting.
3. Add pictures.
I find that pictures help to keep people’s attention, especially if the post is lengthy; the pictures kind of break it up. In addition, some people are visual like me, and the pictures help to draw people in.
4. Just don’t quit.
Like anything else consistency is key. Set a realistic expectation and make sure that you hold yourself accountable to it. There are times when you are super busy or life happens to get in the way, don’t get discouraged. Just read and keep blogging.
5. Last but not least…..have fun.
Blogging can be fun, not always but there are times when it is. In order to make blogging fun, be sure to write about fun topics or something that makes you laugh!
-Kristle (A Blogging Mom)
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Motivational Monday – Time

“Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil.”

– Ephesians 5:15-16

We often find ourselves somehow just moving through the days. Today is Monday, and next thing we know it’s Friday. We have no idea how we have gotten here, or what we’ve done in the time between; yet somehow, we have arrived here! We move throughout our days without a plan, lack of emotion, and no destination. If we have a plan, it’s typically just to make it to the weekend. If we have feeling, it’s anticipation for the weekend. That is not living wisely, and doesn’t allow for us to maximize our days. We have so much life to live every day, let’s not waste any of it. It’s our mission to master our days! To ensure that at work we are given our most, that we are providing our families with our greatest selves and saving some of us, for us as well!

This week, we must look forward to living beyond the weekend, the vacation days, holidays, and off days. We all must learn to live in the now all the time, so that we are allowed to make the most of our entire lives, rather than just select days of it. Being able to make use of our days, means that we are better able to create a plan for our futures. Let’s be present always.

“If you don’t know exactly where you’re going, how will you know when you get there?” – Steve Maraboli

  • Kristina G.

A Mother

I don’t believe that the life, actions, or nature of a mother can be defined. There is no precise way to bottle up everything that entails a mom into one definition. Moms are fluent, we are forever changing and evolving into what our families need. Take a moment to think of the process of becoming a mother. Our organs and bones shift, our hormones change, and our body grows to protect and accommodate a new life form. From those profound changes, we begin the process of forever changing. Chemically and internally our minds and bodies alter to make us more nurturing. Our bodies understand that we must produce milk and it magically does! Change for mothers doesn’t just stop there though. Watch a predator approach a mother animal’s offspring in the wild, you will see her immediately tense up and prepare to fight to the death. Every cell inside of her compels her to save her child’s life and potentially lose her own. As human mothers, we are no difference. It’s a instinct that’s triggered with motherhood. The changes don’t stop there. As our children age, we learn to be their friends, enemies, teachers, and so much more. The essence of motherhood is breathtaking.

If that doesn’t amaze you, look at the bond that mothers share with their children. Every ounce of pain that a child feels, a mother feels in tons. When we watch our babies sleep, we lay there exhausted, but unable to take our eyes off them. When our children become afraid or nervous they naturally search for us to comfort them. What amazes me the most, is how at birth they already know our voice and can detect us by smell.

I wrote all of that to say, if for any reason someone doesn’t celebrate Mother’s Day, or see it as such a big deal, they need to rethink their logic. Mothers are the backbone of humanity and the beauty that we see in the world. This Mother’s Day, I want every mother to be celebrated with love and appreciation. Moms……. know that without us, there is no anything. We are amazing!!!

Happy Mother’s Day Monumental Moms

-Kristina (Kristopher’s Mom)

Tips for the Expecting Mom

I’ve compiled some tips that I would not only use myself, but I would offer to an expecting first time mom. You can never fully prepare for the drastic change of motherhood, but you can try to plan as best as possible.
1. Take a vacation with your spouse.
It can be a weekend getaway, but it’s important to savor the alone time because once the baby comes, it might be a while before you two get some alone time!

2. Treat yourself to something really nice!
Now is the time to splurge before the baby’s arrival LOL! I mean it! Truly treat yourself to something that you have been eyeing but just haven’t purchased because you are trying to be practical. Trust me, once the baby is born your finances and priorities change! Your needs, wants, and desires will take a backseat immediately!

3. Savor the quietness.
Once you have a baby there won’t be a lot of quiet time. Especially if the baby is hungry, sleepy, teething, etc. I never realized how much I liked the quiet until I became a mom, LOL!

4. Appreciate your body now!
I have a few friends who don’t have children yet and they are often really critical of their bodies. Although your body may not be perfect pre-baby it will definitely be different after growing and birthing a baby.

5. Live in the moment.
Be adventurous and do things that you would not normally do before the baby comes. Getting out of our own comfort zone is hard! But once you become a mother, you feel a sense of empowerment and feel that you can do almost anything! You just may not have the time to do it, LOL!

6. Sleep now while you can!
Sleep like you’ve never slept before, LOL!! If you are tired, take a nap. If you are bored, tap a nap. If you are feeling adventurous take off work and take a nap! Sleep will never be the same post-baby, even once they sleep throughout the night your sleeping habits are never the same. You are on constant alert even when sleeping, LOL.

7. Cook and Freeze.
Once the baby comes, you won’t feel like cooking for a while. Toward the end of your pregnancy, cook some of your favorite foods and freeze them. You will thank yourself later!

To other moms, please feel free to leave some of your tips that you would give to an expecting Mom!
​Kristle~Kodie’s Mommy

Life as Mom

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Today, I realized that motherhood with a toddler is going to send me to the Nut house. If you have/had a toddler (especially a boy), you already know what I’m talking about. Toddlers have a way of pushing you as far as you can go, and my son specializes in doing just that. He absolutely loves to do all the things that he shouldn’t. If there’s a puddle and he has on cloth tennis, he will jump in it. He licks random things for no reason at all, and climbs things, just to jump off. Boogies and passing gas, are the new funniest things in life. And, if I’m washing clothes I must guard the washer while open with my life, so that every item in the home doesn’t go into it. There is no rest as a toddler mom.

As if the behavior is not enough, the questions alone make my head spin. The other day when he spotted a squirrel running up the street, he asked me what squirrel poop smelled like. I was speechless, I mean it’s a great question, but how am I to know? I can’t recall ever smelling or seeing squirrel poop! It is days later, and I’m still trying to figure out where squirrels poop at! As a new toddler mom, I’m a little confused at how I’m supposed to know answers to all the things his mind comes up with!! And, I’m sure the questions will only get harder as he gets older!!! Just the other day he was drinking some juice and then went to use the bathroom. When he returned, he asked me if the pee in the pot was the juice he just drank, or the water that he drank earlier. I just stood there thinking……. now I’m expected to be pee expert! LOL.

Along with behaviors and toddler questions, I deal with the “let me create this,” inventions. My son creates all types of things, and I love his little imagination, but some days I’m too tired to redirect his ideas in a direction that doesn’t destroy our home or household products. I’ve frequently caught him taking all the toilet tissue off the rolls, so that he can use the roll for a telescope.

To the toddler moms out here making it one day at a time, know that you are not alone and these crazy moments wont last forever. One day they will grow up, and we will miss those wild behaviors, crazy questions, and cute little inventions. Enjoy these little moments Moms, because they will be the ones you want to remember the most.

-Kristina (Kristopher’s Tired Mom)

Mommy Bloggers

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Kristina and I initially came up with the idea of blogging when Kodie and Kristopher were still babies; however, we didn’t actually start blogging until the boys were around a year and a half. We had so many great ideas but fear stood in the way! I have to admit that before I started blogging, my perception was very distorted LOL. I just knew that Kristina and I would be an overnight success! I just knew that we would take off running and we would have thousands of followers with all of this success but the reality is that like anything else, success does not happen overnight. Below are some tips for people who are new to blogging or for people who may be having some growing pains in life:

1). Just Do It
Taking action is the first step to anything. You can have all of the ideas in the world but if you don’t put them into action then they mean nothing. My very first post was about stepping out of your comfort zone. In that post I talk about how you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone and stop talking yourself out of things. I literally push myself every time I write a post LOL, but once it’s done I feel good.
2). Don’t Be So Serious
Life is hard, work is hard, and raising children is hard! Don’t make blogging so serious. My job is actually pretty serious but I love to laugh so I guess that’s a conundrum. I find ways to still have fun while at work; otherwise all of the seriousness would get to me LOL. Find ways to laugh even if it’s at yourself! I often try to have humor in my posts because I have enough seriousness in the day to day LOL.
3). Don’t Be So Critical of Yourself
You’re going to make mistakes such as spelling errors and grammatical errors but it’s ok; it’s not the end of the world! Don’t over analyze your post. The main thing is to write it and then post it!
4). You Will Want to Give Up
There are weeks when I literally wait until the last minute to write a post because either I could not think of a good topic or I just don’t really feel like it. Sometimes, I will almost convince myself not to do it at all because we don’t have a lot of readers who read our blog, but then I just do it! Why? Because after I write a post I feel a sense of accomplishment and even if we don’t have thousands of followers yet, there are some people who support and enjoy our posts.
5). Consistency is Key
Even on those days when you don’t feel like blogging, just think of the big picture. The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is that the successful person kept going until they reached their goal, whereas the unsuccessful person stopped probably right before they reached their goal. This can apply to many aspects of life such as eating healthy, working out etc.
6). Have Fun Blogging
I’ve come to think of blogging as an outlet. Sometimes it helps to just release whatever thoughts or feelings you have. Even if blogging isn’t your full time job and you don’t get paid to do it, you can still make if fun.

~Kristle (a Mommy Blogger)

“Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm.” Sir Winston Churchill

“The value of an idea lies in the using of it.” Thomas Edison

“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.” Albert Einstein

“The harder the conflict, the greater the triumph.” George Washington

“Write what you know.” Mark Twain