Making Room for Mom

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When I was pregnant, I was obsessed with watching shows about new parents making room for babies. I even use to watch a series called “Making Room for Baby.” It’s not until my son is three years old going on four, where I am busy every single day preparing lunches, working a full-time and part-time job, and trying to care for an entire family; that I realize that I have failed to make room for me! I have no idea where time for myself has disappeared to. I’ve tried daily to better keep up with my morning devotionals, make more frequent post, journal more, and to take time out to read a book for personal enjoyment, but they all seem to be the most impossible tasks. I’m not sure if it’s that it gets dark earlier, or if I’m just lazier, but making room for mom has become unfeasible.

As a working mom, I frequently feel that I am being pulled in multiple directions. I get to work and must perform for an entire new family (clients, coworkers, and supervisors). While, we all try to give our career our undivided attention throughout the day, it’s not always easy when you still must schedule appointments, make market list, plan meals, and keep your mind from wondering about how else everyone day is going. Most days you find yourself finishing up work, just in time to start a new shift at home. If you are any thing like me, the one thing you look forward to is the car ride home. If your life is truly like mine, that time doesn’t belong to you either. During my rides home, I catch up with friends, return calls from the day, and plan things. By the time my car pulls up to my son’s school my time is up!

I’m sure that this is something that all moms experience at some point in motherhood. It’s moments like now that I don’t exactly feel like a super mom and it sucks. Yet, I remind myself that I’m not perfect and I deserve a spot in my own life as well. As Moms, we must remember that if we don’t choose us daily, there will be no them. Well, maybe, they would somehow make it, just not well! Lol.

Today, I’ve decided to make room for me again! I know that many Moms all over the planet are saying the same thing and failing at it. I’ve accepted that I may fail at it too. However, I believe it’s still worth the try. They say, “Nothing beats a failure, but a try,” so I’ve created some simple ideas of how I’m trying to MAKE MORE ROOM FOR MOM!

  1. Adequate Sleep – There is only one thing worse than a cranky you, and that’s a cranky mom! Unless you ask your husband, because he will swear the absolute worse is a cranky wife! Lol. Part of the cure for crankiness is sleep. Most of us have had months, if not years of sleepless nights. Establish set bedtimes Moms, for EVERYONE. This includes husbands too. They don’t have to go to sleep, they just need to understand that you have a set time that you need to.

 

  1. Waking up a little earlier to have a little more me time – 15 to 20 minutes in the morning can make the world of difference in your day. In my house, early mornings are the only time that everyone is sleep! That means peace and quiet for Mom!!!

 

  1. Prayer – No matter what you believe, take some time out to pray. Cover yourselves and your family.

 

  1. Positive Affirmations – They keep me motivated and encouraged, when everything else is dragging me down. Is a great way to stay uplifted.

 

  1. Hide- sounds crazy, but it works. Sometimes you just need to hide. Some of my favorite hiding places are the bathtub, the back porch and the basement.

Let’s face it moms, we have already learned to live off the bare minimum, that’s just a part of being a mom. Trying something new will not hurt.

Kristina – Kristopher’s Mom

Twenty-Minute Workouts for Busy Moms

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Since becoming a Mom, I’ve found that it’s imperative to manage my time effectively especially since I don’t have a lot of uninterrupted time to myself. These days using the bathroom alone is kind of a big deal, LOL! There’s always something to be done around the house. The to-do lists are endless from grocery shopping to doing laundry, to teaching, and playing with and bathing a stubborn toddler! Whew, I’m exhausted just thinking about everything to do. Managing a house and taking care of a kid(s) is a full time job on top of my actual full time job so often times as Moms our health and fitness tends to take a back seat.

I don’t know about you, but after work I have to cook, clean and get a toddler ready for the next day. To spend an hour or two in the gym is just not practical in this current phase of my life. But I also want to be healthy as well as look good and feel good. Luckily, I’ve found three 20 minute workouts that are amazing! I love them because you can do them at home with or without the kids. They make you feel like you are about to die, which in this case is good, because you want to use your time wisely and feel like you’ve accomplished something! Also, the workouts on YouTube are free!

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1. 30 Day Shred by Jillian Michaels
This is a DVD that can be purchased online. It’s been out for a while and is a very effective workout. I used this DVD on and off for years, especially around the time of my wedding. This workout still kicks my butt!

2. Relentless Jake-You tube
This work out is no joke! It will have you out of breath and gasping for air, Lol!

3. Class Fitsugar-You tube
I tried this workout for the first time today and thought to myself that this woman is crazy! She has you doing stuff that you didn’t even know your body was capable of doing, Lol!

Please be sure to share some of your workout plans!

~Kristle (a Busy Mom)

How To Protect Your Energy From Negativity

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When it comes to people’s energy, I’m really sensitive to it. I can feel if people are genuine or fake; even when they try really hard I can tell. Some people just give me bad vibes, it doesn’t have to be something that they have done but it’s the vibes that they give off. We all give off energy, whether good or bad. Energy can also be contagious. Have you ever noticed that when someone is in bad place and being really negative you start to feel negative as well? The same can be said with positive people with positive energy. Some people are like sunshine and you just want to soak up their good vibes, Lol!

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Since becoming a mother I’ve realized that my patience with people is very thin, especially when it comes to negative people. I try my best to avoid people and situations that can turn my positive energy into negative energy. However; we all have family members or coworkers that you simply can’t avoid forever. Below are some tips on how to protect your energy.

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1. Don’t engage the person and negativity.
When a person’s energy is off and they are expelling negativity, don’t engage them. If you do, the negativity just grows and you will find yourself in a negative state.

2. Avoid drama.
Drama and negativity go hand and hand. A person that’s full of drama has a lot of negativity around them, even if they don’t know it. Some people just can’t seem to get away from drama; but what kind of energy are they releasing into the universe?!

3. Control your own thoughts.
It’s very easy to get overwhelmed with work, life, children, etc and when that happens, our thoughts sometimes end up on the dark side. When feeling overwhelmed, take a step back and refocus. Instead of complaining, embrace gratitude and your attitude will change instantly!

4. Be careful what you focus on.
Have you ever noticed that the more energy you put into something the stronger the feeling or emotion becomes? If you are a worrier, then the more you worry about the problem the worse it becomes! Before you know it you are stressed out and have all sorts of crazy thoughts and scenarios in your head!

5. Be responsible for the energy that you bring.
It’s important to check yourself and your own energy. Life happens but how we respond to it is the true test.

~Kristle (Kodie’s Mommy)

Marriage Chronicles-Part I

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Marriage-A legal joining of two people, a union (dictionary.com)
I’ve been married for 5 years now and I will say that there are some things that my married friends and or family members failed to mention before I tied the knot. Don’t get me wrong, marriage is a beautiful thing, but with the wrong person it can be a disaster. I will also say that before marriage there were some things that I didn’t really consider. Below I’ve compiled a list of things that most people don’t talk about!

I love my husband……but
Although I love my husband I don’t always like him or the things that he does. There- I’ve said it! So now you know that you are not alone in this, Lol. The important thing to remember when these feelings arise is that they are temporary (hopefully, Lol). Try not to lash out or say something really mean that you may regret later. Sometimes it’s not even about your spouse when you feel this way, you may just be tired, hungry, or having a bad day.

Don’t Tell Everybody Your Business-This is some of the best advice that I’ve received. As women we are emotional and when we are upset we sometimes need to vent. This is fine, just be careful who you are venting to. I may be mad at my husband today and back to being his BFF tomorrow. Some people will throw your own words in your face.

Nothing Stays the Same-Most of us don’t think five, ten, or even fifteen years down the line when we are in wedded bliss. Life events happen such as having children, the loss of jobs, parents, and loved ones. When these things happen, they often change us. These major life events will be the true test of your marriage. It’s easy to love someone when everything in life is perfect, but when things get hard, ugly and messy it’s not always so easy.

It’s Ok to Still Be You-Early on in my marriage; I realized that although my husband and I are now a union, we also needed to maintain our individuality. He lets me be me and I let him be him, otherwise we both would have serious resentments.
Maintain a Sense of Humor-It’s important to still have fun together and laugh. Sometimes when the bills won’t stop, the baby won’t sleep, and then something breaks you literally want to scream and sometimes it’s at each other. When this happens find a reason to laugh.

Make Time for Sex-We are all super busy with careers and or raising children. The laundry and housework is never ending. The to-do- list is just that-a list-and it will be there tomorrow. As a working mother and wife, trust me I’m exhausted most of the time and can barely see straight, Lol. Many couples fail to make time to connect sexually and as a result they are even more stressed, angry, and the man is probably pissed and resentful! Sex is important in any relationship, especially a marriage. If someone tells you otherwise then don’t believe them.

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-Kristle (Keith’s Wife)

 

Summer Time Fun on a Budget

Most kids can’t wait until school is out for the summer, but for parents it can be pretty stressful when trying to find activities for them. If you’re a parent who wants to keep your children entertained but you are on a tight budget, do a little online research before choosing activities.

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• Websites like Groupon and Living Social are your friend. They often have affordable deals and activities.

• Check out Home Depot’s website. They often have free monthly activities for children.

• Sometimes children just want to run around and be outside. The playground is always a free option. Annie’s playground in Fallston Maryland is a pretty cool option.

• Storyville at the library is a fun free option. The ages are from newborns to age 5 years.

• Gymboree and My Little Gym are good options for smaller kids. They often have free days where you can take your little one for free play. The ages range from newborn to 5 years old.

• If your budget is really tight, try incorporating at least one free activity such as the library, playground etc., and then you can take your child for ice cream or an inexpensive meal. Most restaurants have inexpensive kids meal options.

• The Baltimore zoo and Aquarium often have days when prices are cheaper.

• Try taking a walk to a park or your local reservoir; it’s free and gives your child the opportunity to explore nature.

• For swimming options, Codorus State park in Pennsylvania has a large pool and a small pool area for babies and toddlers. There is a fee but depending on your child’s height they may be able to swim for free!

Anytime I can find a deal or discount I get excited! Please feel free to share other tips for budget friendly activities for the little ones.

~Kristle (A Budgeting Mom)