Momma’s Boys

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Hi, My name is Kristina and My son is a Momma’s Boy. Kristopher, is three years old and loves me more than anything else on this earth and the feelings are very mutual. He wakes up in the morning and immediately calls for me. If my husbands goes to him first, he will ask for Mommy in a matter of seconds. In the mornings when I drop him off to school, we have to share at least 5 kisses, 5 hugs, a secret and, and say I love you at least 3 times. He falls to sleep the best when he is able to lay directly on my skin and typically likes for me to be around him the majority of the time. With out question my son is a Momma’s Boy and I have absolutely no issue with it.

Despite popular belief, that in no way makes him weak, girly, or too attached to function on his own. The stereotype of a “Momma’s Boy,” is crazy to me. My son is one of the most sociable kids in his preschool class. His teachers have complimented him on how mature he is for a three year old (shares well, rarely throw tantrums, and follows directions well). He goes to playgrounds and plays with kids his age, younger and older without any issues. After dinner he places his own plate in the sink, and brushes his own teeth. He is also a pretty rough little guy, daring and adventurous. Where he is attached and loves mom’s presence, he is still extremely independent. Kristopher, enjoys discovering, fixing, and accomplishing things on his own.

I absolutely hate the stereotypes and negative talk about “Momma’sBoys.” How often do we hear negative things when people say…. Awwwwww, she’s a “Daddy’s Girl?” The answer is never! Society just eats that up. It’s great to be a “Daddy’s Girl, but bad to be a “Momma’s Boy.” I decided to create a list of a few great things about “Momma’s Boys!

1. They are gentlemen: My three year old loves to rush and open doors for me, and even to try to pull my chair out. He’s going to be a great husband in the future.

2. Empathic: He’s in tune with my moods. He knows before anyone else when I’m happy, or sad. “Momma’s Boys,” learn quickly to read emotions, because they watch their moms so closely.

3. Loving: “Momma’s Boys,” can’t help but to be loving people. They spend so much time loving their moms that they are just full of extra love.

4. Respect Women: Being raised by a woman, they often have great respect for them. My son believes that I can do anything. The pride I see when he looks at me makes my heart melt.

5. Gentle with Girls: I’ve noticed that as rough as my son can get, when he’s playing with little girls his size, he’s careful not to knock them over or run into them too hard or often.

6. Super Happy: Just as any other kid is, “Momma’s Boys,” are just as happy. Being a “Momma’s Boy,” doesn’t make them any less happy!

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I hope that this blog helps mothers of “Momma’s Boys” feel a little more comfortable in raising their sons. Ignore the myths and opinions of others and keep right on loving your son with everything that you have inside of you.

Kristina – Kristopher’s Mommy

 

Motivational Monday – Intuition

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I can do all things through him who strengthens me.

Philippians 4:13

I have always believed that womanhood comes with a gift of intuition. We as women seem to naturally have a sixth sense for knowing things that are often beyond our knowledge. Have you ever just felt something in your gut? Sensed something was about to occur and it does? It is something that we all appear to posses, but often ignore in ourselves. We will know something doesn’t feel quite right, yet go for it any way. We will sense something is wrong and ignore all the signs and look back with regret at the end. Or we will feel something is perfect and allow fear to convince us otherwise. Today’s post is about trusting your gut. I urge everyone to start paying that intuition just a little more attention. I’m not suggesting allowing it to run your life, but to allow it to have more of a role in it. Start trusting yourself and your feelings more and stop ignoring that inner voice attempting to direct you.

This week I encourage everyone to listen to themselves. I ask you each to take a moment out to sit down and listen to yourself. Try to figure out what you have been trying to tell yourself, but ignoring. Remember you have the power to change your own life. You just have to trust yourself.

I believe in intuitions and inspirations…I sometimes feel that I am right. I do not know that I am. – Albert Einstein

Kristina

5 Tips for Being a Happier Mommy

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As mothers, it is imperative to maintain a sense of self and find moments of peace whenever possible. It’s hard to find balance with full time jobs and busy schedules. I’ve compiled some tips that have worked for me when I began to feel stressed and overwhelmed.

1. It’s Ok to Say No-When you’re overwhelmed with kids, work, husbands, etc. don’t pile any extra stuff to your to do list. As women we tend to over extend ourselves by trying to please others. Sometimes it’s important to do what’s necessary but say no to things that aren’t essential.

2. Take Mental Health Breaks-Our mental health is essential to our well-being and it’s just as important as physical health. Sometimes you may need to take a sick day to focus on your mental well-being.

3. Don’t Exert Energy on Other People’s Business-It’s really important to mind your own business! It takes a lot of energy to consume yourself with matters that don’t concern you and yours.

4. Have Fun-At times it can seem like we are caught in a rat race! We are always busy and rushing. It’s important to still have fun. A happy mommy= a happy child. Our kids feed off of our energy and they know when we are stressed, sad, and happy.

5. Practice Gratitude-It’s important to appreciate what you already have before you can rise to the next level. You might not have as much money as you want or the job that you want but be grateful for what you have. Just think, some millionaires would spend their entire fortune to have good health or be cancer free. So if you have good health, it is definitely something to be grateful for!

~Kristle (Kodie’s Mommy)

Motivational Monday – Be Thankful

“Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.”

1 Chronicles 16:34

There are days where we all feel like we are coming up short. In those moments it’s difficult not to dwell in the the things that we currently don’t have; however, those are the times that we have to be the most thankful. It’s easy to look at what you are missing, rather than seeing all the things that you have. It is imperative to remain thankful in life no matter what your circumstances are, because your thankfulness is what leads you towards positivity and the opportunity to do better. Thankfulness is a form of positive energy and a way of remaining humble and appreciative no matter what your circumstances are.

This week, take a count of all the great things that you have in your life right now. Look at the positive stuff you have coming up and make yourself a plan to thank someone who has done something meaningful for you. Above all know that you always have something to be thankful for.

Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.
Oprah Winfrey

– Kristina

Motivational Monday – Calling All Friends

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Most days we feel like we are running a race. Up early preparing the kids for school and then off to work we go in the mornings. Once we return home it’s homework, dinner, and time to hear all about our partners day. Typically the phone call that we planned to make to our friend has been forgotten and by the time we do remember it, it’s way too late to call and check on them. Once life gets moving, our friends sort of become harder for us to keep up with. We’ll play phone tag for days and plan girls nights that may get cancelled twice before we ever make it out. Where we used to spend nights talking on the phone, we can hardly fit 10 minutes in without someones kid having a meltdown and causing us to hang up. The reality is that we need our friendships, just as much as we need all of the other relationships that we have in our lives.

This week, call a friend that you have been meaning to call, but the two of you have just been too busy to catch up. Plan a brunch out with your college girls, or just a girls day in to just catch up on laughs. The goal is to not just plan the dates, but to stick to them!

“True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils. Strive to have friends, for life without friends is like life on a desert island… to find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep him is a blessing.”

– Kristina

Regain Your Control

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The other day I pulled up to my job and just sat in my car for a few extra minutes trying to get myself mentally prepared to enter the building. I sung along with the radio, read my daily devotional, and even wrote my FB post for the morning before getting out of the car. It was not that I did not want to go to work, but that I couldn’t remember the last time that I wasn’t doing something. As a wife, mother, full time employee, part-time employee, and daughter of a parent with health concerns life seems to always be going. No matter how many vacations I take or days off I get, I still always feel as if my light switch is clicked on. I’m sure that there are many other moms that can relate to this.

I was laid in bed thinking….. how can busy women realistically switch off? It’s easy to say take regular breaks, but breaks could break our households; especially for single mom. Many women don’t have time to walk away for even a day, so we have to find reasonable ways to steal ourselves small moments to have to ourselves.

Here is a list of a few ideas of things you can do alone:

1. Take a lunch alone
2. A mid day movie on your own
3. Find a yoga group to decompress at
4. Take extra time in the car between pickups and drop offs
5. Read a book for pleasure
6. Find a hobby you can enjoy on your own
7. Go for a walk
8. Window shop
9. Get a massage
10. Bike riding
11. Fitness classes
12. Take a fun class at Community College

If you noticed, all the above suggestions are things that you are able to complete on your own. That’s because it’s very important for you to find time to connect with yourself. We spend most of our day connecting with everyone else. It’s imperative to do things that we can do no matter who doesn’t show up, or agree with our choices. No matter how much time you have ladies, build in a little extra time for yourselves.

– Kristina – Kristopher’s Mom

Where There is Darkness There Is Always Light…..

“Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.”- Carl Jung

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In a world with so much despair and darkness, why not be a light? If you pay attention to what’s going on in the world then you know that violence is at an all-time high. Natural disasters such as hurricane/tropical storm Harvey have wreaked havoc on Texas and we could go to war at any moment with North Korea, however, one of the great things that has come out of the devastation from Texas has been people volunteering to help others in need. I raise the question, why not be a light?! You never know how just a little positivity such as a smile or asking someone if they need help can go a long way.

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One of the keys to finding true happiness is being grateful and humble. It’s also a big deal when you have the ability to be happy for other people! You don’t have to dim someone else’s light in order for yours to shine bright. Why not celebrate other people’s accomplishments? It takes less energy to be positive and it makes you feel good versus being negative and unhappy. Instead of trying to compete with friends, family, coworkers etc. be happy for them and let them inspire you to reach your dreams and goals. Trust me, your light will shine a lot brighter when you glow from within.

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Life is stressful enough with being a woman, mother, wife, and employee or entrepreneur. Don’t put other people down, especially another woman, when you can help, encourage, and inspire them to reach their full potential. I want all of my friend and family members to do great things! Someone else’s success does not limit my success. Timing is very important and everything happens when it’s supposed to. Right now it might be someone else’s time to shine bright, but don’t worry your time is coming. Always remember to stay positive and shine bright through the darkness.

-Kristle (Kodie’s Mom)

You Did That With Your Toddler?

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One of the most frequent questions that I get as a Mom of a toddler is, why do I do so much with such a young child? Let me start with my own truth about this question. I hate it!! It agitates me to my core, because what I really want to ask in return is…… why do you care what I do with my young toddler? The question really puzzles me, because if others aren’t paying for these outings or adventures, I really don’t understand why any of it matters to them. Yet, no matter what, the question still pops up after most of our many outings. My typical sarcastic response is; why not? There are a million articles that tell parents the importance of reading to your children very early in life. There are articles that stress the importance of play and others that talk about the benefits of having conversations with your children while they’re young. Logically, why wouldn’t exposing your children to new adventures and taking them to different places not benefit them as well?

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It is my goal to expose my son to as many new things as I can every day, week, month, and year of his life. Children learn through play, and experiencing things through touch, and auditory experiences. When I take my three year old to new beaches, I help him decrease his fear of water and learn more about sand, shells, and sea life. When we go to amusement parks, I teach him to be a little more daring and experience gravity. At the Zoo he meets new animal friends, and in every new state that we visit he is able to learn about new cultures, forms of transportation, and places to see. The world is a classroom and a playground for kids. I chose to use it as that for my son while bonding and creating endless memories! It’s also a great way to have him burn his endless energy. A toddler boy will run you crazy if you don’t run them first, so I’m always sure to beat him to the punch!

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For the people who believe that it’s all too much. I’ve learned to shrug them off. To moms like me, you have to do the same. And, for those that are wondering……. he remembers it all! He talks to me in detail about the places we go and is sure to let me know which are his favorites. Being a mother is hard, and not just because you’re busy or tired, but because you are constantly judged! You are judged by family, friends, coworkers, and other moms all of the time. That’s the hard part. Being judged hurts; even for us tough Moms. I have so many moms who tell me that I’m doing my child a disservice because they assume that I never allow him to get bored and have imaginary play. It’s the most hilarious thing in the world to me! I guess that I should be flattered that people believe I am rich enough to keep him that busy. Trust me, I’m no where close. My son actually has a ton of down time where he drives me crazy and does a bunch of imaginary play. If you met my son, you know right away that he has the biggest imagination ever for a three year old.

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To the adventurous moms out there, never allow the questions or judgement of others to impact your flow. We are all moms who do things and live differently, let’s each embrace those differences. Each of us has a super mommy power, never stop another Moms power from shinning brightly.

– Kristina (Kristopher’s Mom)

Motivational Monday – Mastering Distractions

I will meditate on your precepts and fix my eyes on your ways.

Psalm 119:15

Have you ever been in the middle of doing something important like paying a bill, finishing up an important project at work, or trying to complete a thought and someone starts talking to you about something else? Then when you return to complete what you were doing, you realize that your bill is now late or you entered the wrong account number. You may have forgotten to save the project and lost the entire thing! Or that the entire thought has somehow escaped you! This has happened to me a few times. Distractions set us back and throw us completely off of track. As working moms and wives, it can be really difficult sometimes not to get distracted. Distraction is apart of our everyday lives and we have to learn to slow down and manage the distractions that we face daily. Before we walk away from one task we either need to finish it, or make a memorable notation of where we are with something. We also can prepare for distractions. We need to create places where we can get a quiet moment to pay bills, create grocery list, and just breathe for a second. While working, we need to utilize posted notes and calendars to assist with decreasing the amount of information lost during distractions.

There is no true way to guarantee that distractions will never occur with such busy lives, but there are ways to prepare for them. This week, lets each commit to handling our distractions better and having our lives move a little smoother.

“Distraction wastes our energy, concentration restores it.”

Sharon Salzberg

-Kristina

 

Enjoying the Madness of Motherhood

 

 

 

IMG_0290Motherhood is by far the most challenging job that I’ve had to date! The hours are 24-7, you don’t get sick days, and your sleep is constantly interrupted. The toddler tantrums kick in when you least expect it and you feel so helpless when they are sick. On the contrary, it’s also one of the most rewarding and fun experiences that I’ve had. The way that Kodie loves me is unique to anything that I’ve ever experienced. He calls me princess when I get dressed up, LOL. He holds the door for me, tries to carry my grocery bags, and he makes up his own songs, LOL. Although some days can be never ending and really hard, I tell myself that it’s important to savor these moments because they will be gone before I know it. Below I’ve compiled a list of ways to enjoy the madness of motherhood.

What do you do when your toddler has lost his or her mind?

You lose your mind right along with them. I will say. Kodie’s name constantly over and over again until he can’t take it anymore. I’ll have my own tantrum…this includes whining, pretending to cry and asking for stuff over and over again, LOL.

Impromptu dancing is fun.
Kodie loves to dance and I’m not much of a dancer, but the good thing about kids is they don’t judge you. They just think that mommy is funny and silly.
Because I’m an Adult I can eat all the snacks I want!
If Kodie won’t eat his dinner or if he is misbehaving, I will eat his snacks in front of him, LOL. It makes him so mad, LOL. I’ve found that withholding snacks from Kodie has been a very effective form of punishment.

Have your children get stuff for you.
Now that Kodie is a little bigger and he can understand and follow instructions really well, if I forget something upstairs or downstairs I can have him get it for me! When he was a baby and I forgot something I would constantly have to run up and down steps…well not anymore! When I was a kid I hated when my parents would make me get their stuff for them. Adults would always say stuff like, that’s what kids are for, LOL!

Having children is the perfect excuse to watching certain movies/shows.
Kodie and I were watching Pinocchio the other day and I must say it was really good, LOL. I haven’t seen it in years!

Entertainment.
Kodie is not an agreeable child. I can say let’s do this and he will automatically disagree just to disagree. He actually enjoys arguing, LOL. When I’m bored I’ll pick arguments with him and he gets so mad!
-Kristle (Kodie’s Mommy)