A Letter to My Husband

Have you ever just wanted to write your husband a letter, or better yet; just tell him off? Maybe, some of you are blessed to have the amazing husbands that clean up at home, help attentively with the kids and don’t drive you even crazier than you already are! Me, I’m well….. let’s just say I have the husband that God saw fit to give me. Lol. There are days that I come home completely exhausted from work and I still must figure it all out, while my husband seems to be way too tired from his hardworking job!! So, if I could write him a letter it would go like this….. 

Dear Husband, 

 Where I totally understand that you work oh so hard, I just wanted to remind you that so do I. I’m not sure if you remember, but this morning I woke up and got dressed for work too, and right after I finished getting me dressed I got a cranky three your old dressed as well. I stood in the bathroom while he peed and brushed his teeth, when I really needed to make the bed and start his quick breakfast. No worries though, because once he finished I did all of that! 

I went to work and worked all day, just like you! I had to both listen to and resolve the problems of an entire caseload with a smile. And, when my supervisor asked me to do something 5 minutes before it was time to go, I did that too. Don’t fret though, I still made it to pick up our son and as soon as he got into the car I listened to all of his stories and was able to resolve where his missing Spider-Man was. 

When I walked into the house door, I wasn’t greeted by cheer, but the pressure of preparing for the morning. I packed a lunch, prepared bath time, completed homework and learning time, cooked dinner, and wiped up crumbs that both you and my stepson seem to not see on the island or floor after you eat. I also, swept the kitchen floor up to clear away any extra food that was dropped and emptied the overflowing kitchen trash can that is only visible to me. Once all my maid duties were done I read a story to our son and tried to watch a part of something on television before drifting off to sleep.  

I’m sure you’re wondering the purpose of this letter. The next time you want some special adult time or wonder why Mom is in such a funk, read this until you figure it out!  

Love

Your Wife

LOL!!! Sometimes we just need to get a few things off our chest. When you want to kill you husbands next time Monumentals, just write a little letter for yourself. If you’re feeling bold go ahead and leave it on his pillow. Just don’t be alarmed if he doesn’t really get it! Lol 

Kristina – The Wife

Making Room for Mom

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When I was pregnant, I was obsessed with watching shows about new parents making room for babies. I even use to watch a series called “Making Room for Baby.” It’s not until my son is three years old going on four, where I am busy every single day preparing lunches, working a full-time and part-time job, and trying to care for an entire family; that I realize that I have failed to make room for me! I have no idea where time for myself has disappeared to. I’ve tried daily to better keep up with my morning devotionals, make more frequent post, journal more, and to take time out to read a book for personal enjoyment, but they all seem to be the most impossible tasks. I’m not sure if it’s that it gets dark earlier, or if I’m just lazier, but making room for mom has become unfeasible.

As a working mom, I frequently feel that I am being pulled in multiple directions. I get to work and must perform for an entire new family (clients, coworkers, and supervisors). While, we all try to give our career our undivided attention throughout the day, it’s not always easy when you still must schedule appointments, make market list, plan meals, and keep your mind from wondering about how else everyone day is going. Most days you find yourself finishing up work, just in time to start a new shift at home. If you are any thing like me, the one thing you look forward to is the car ride home. If your life is truly like mine, that time doesn’t belong to you either. During my rides home, I catch up with friends, return calls from the day, and plan things. By the time my car pulls up to my son’s school my time is up!

I’m sure that this is something that all moms experience at some point in motherhood. It’s moments like now that I don’t exactly feel like a super mom and it sucks. Yet, I remind myself that I’m not perfect and I deserve a spot in my own life as well. As Moms, we must remember that if we don’t choose us daily, there will be no them. Well, maybe, they would somehow make it, just not well! Lol.

Today, I’ve decided to make room for me again! I know that many Moms all over the planet are saying the same thing and failing at it. I’ve accepted that I may fail at it too. However, I believe it’s still worth the try. They say, “Nothing beats a failure, but a try,” so I’ve created some simple ideas of how I’m trying to MAKE MORE ROOM FOR MOM!

  1. Adequate Sleep – There is only one thing worse than a cranky you, and that’s a cranky mom! Unless you ask your husband, because he will swear the absolute worse is a cranky wife! Lol. Part of the cure for crankiness is sleep. Most of us have had months, if not years of sleepless nights. Establish set bedtimes Moms, for EVERYONE. This includes husbands too. They don’t have to go to sleep, they just need to understand that you have a set time that you need to.

 

  1. Waking up a little earlier to have a little more me time – 15 to 20 minutes in the morning can make the world of difference in your day. In my house, early mornings are the only time that everyone is sleep! That means peace and quiet for Mom!!!

 

  1. Prayer – No matter what you believe, take some time out to pray. Cover yourselves and your family.

 

  1. Positive Affirmations – They keep me motivated and encouraged, when everything else is dragging me down. Is a great way to stay uplifted.

 

  1. Hide- sounds crazy, but it works. Sometimes you just need to hide. Some of my favorite hiding places are the bathtub, the back porch and the basement.

Let’s face it moms, we have already learned to live off the bare minimum, that’s just a part of being a mom. Trying something new will not hurt.

Kristina – Kristopher’s Mom

Don’t Judg Me

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As parents, we all know that children can go from 0-10 in a matter of seconds. These kids have a way of pushing your patience and bringing out the worst in you by testing your limits, especially while in public! Kodie is definitely no exception to this; I think that he waits until we are in public to try me! One day I was putting him in his car seat and he was talking back, so I yelled at him. When I turned around my neighbor was standing across the street with his dog and I could feel his gaze and judgment! I waived and kept it moving, LOL.

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In my opinion, the people that are the most judgmental are the ones who are not in the same situation as you. The older people who are all judgmental haven’t raised kids in decades and maybe they have forgotten how frustrating the whole process can be. The people without children just don’t have a clue and think that their kids will either be perfect little angels or they have the misguided belief that they will be in control of the tantrums, outbursts, and the screaming. You can tell when you are in the company of other parent’s because they barely even look at you when you are disciplining your child in public. In closing, don’t let other people’s judgments and opinion’s impact you. If people are really concerned then they can offer to help you instead of judging you and your parenting tactics.
-Kristle (Kodie’s Mommy)

Enjoying the Madness of Motherhood

 

 

 

IMG_0290Motherhood is by far the most challenging job that I’ve had to date! The hours are 24-7, you don’t get sick days, and your sleep is constantly interrupted. The toddler tantrums kick in when you least expect it and you feel so helpless when they are sick. On the contrary, it’s also one of the most rewarding and fun experiences that I’ve had. The way that Kodie loves me is unique to anything that I’ve ever experienced. He calls me princess when I get dressed up, LOL. He holds the door for me, tries to carry my grocery bags, and he makes up his own songs, LOL. Although some days can be never ending and really hard, I tell myself that it’s important to savor these moments because they will be gone before I know it. Below I’ve compiled a list of ways to enjoy the madness of motherhood.

What do you do when your toddler has lost his or her mind?

You lose your mind right along with them. I will say. Kodie’s name constantly over and over again until he can’t take it anymore. I’ll have my own tantrum…this includes whining, pretending to cry and asking for stuff over and over again, LOL.

Impromptu dancing is fun.
Kodie loves to dance and I’m not much of a dancer, but the good thing about kids is they don’t judge you. They just think that mommy is funny and silly.
Because I’m an Adult I can eat all the snacks I want!
If Kodie won’t eat his dinner or if he is misbehaving, I will eat his snacks in front of him, LOL. It makes him so mad, LOL. I’ve found that withholding snacks from Kodie has been a very effective form of punishment.

Have your children get stuff for you.
Now that Kodie is a little bigger and he can understand and follow instructions really well, if I forget something upstairs or downstairs I can have him get it for me! When he was a baby and I forgot something I would constantly have to run up and down steps…well not anymore! When I was a kid I hated when my parents would make me get their stuff for them. Adults would always say stuff like, that’s what kids are for, LOL!

Having children is the perfect excuse to watching certain movies/shows.
Kodie and I were watching Pinocchio the other day and I must say it was really good, LOL. I haven’t seen it in years!

Entertainment.
Kodie is not an agreeable child. I can say let’s do this and he will automatically disagree just to disagree. He actually enjoys arguing, LOL. When I’m bored I’ll pick arguments with him and he gets so mad!
-Kristle (Kodie’s Mommy)

Twenty-Minute Workouts for Busy Moms

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Since becoming a Mom, I’ve found that it’s imperative to manage my time effectively especially since I don’t have a lot of uninterrupted time to myself. These days using the bathroom alone is kind of a big deal, LOL! There’s always something to be done around the house. The to-do lists are endless from grocery shopping to doing laundry, to teaching, and playing with and bathing a stubborn toddler! Whew, I’m exhausted just thinking about everything to do. Managing a house and taking care of a kid(s) is a full time job on top of my actual full time job so often times as Moms our health and fitness tends to take a back seat.

I don’t know about you, but after work I have to cook, clean and get a toddler ready for the next day. To spend an hour or two in the gym is just not practical in this current phase of my life. But I also want to be healthy as well as look good and feel good. Luckily, I’ve found three 20 minute workouts that are amazing! I love them because you can do them at home with or without the kids. They make you feel like you are about to die, which in this case is good, because you want to use your time wisely and feel like you’ve accomplished something! Also, the workouts on YouTube are free!

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1. 30 Day Shred by Jillian Michaels
This is a DVD that can be purchased online. It’s been out for a while and is a very effective workout. I used this DVD on and off for years, especially around the time of my wedding. This workout still kicks my butt!

2. Relentless Jake-You tube
This work out is no joke! It will have you out of breath and gasping for air, Lol!

3. Class Fitsugar-You tube
I tried this workout for the first time today and thought to myself that this woman is crazy! She has you doing stuff that you didn’t even know your body was capable of doing, Lol!

Please be sure to share some of your workout plans!

~Kristle (a Busy Mom)

Marriage Chronicles-Part I

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Marriage-A legal joining of two people, a union (dictionary.com)
I’ve been married for 5 years now and I will say that there are some things that my married friends and or family members failed to mention before I tied the knot. Don’t get me wrong, marriage is a beautiful thing, but with the wrong person it can be a disaster. I will also say that before marriage there were some things that I didn’t really consider. Below I’ve compiled a list of things that most people don’t talk about!

I love my husband……but
Although I love my husband I don’t always like him or the things that he does. There- I’ve said it! So now you know that you are not alone in this, Lol. The important thing to remember when these feelings arise is that they are temporary (hopefully, Lol). Try not to lash out or say something really mean that you may regret later. Sometimes it’s not even about your spouse when you feel this way, you may just be tired, hungry, or having a bad day.

Don’t Tell Everybody Your Business-This is some of the best advice that I’ve received. As women we are emotional and when we are upset we sometimes need to vent. This is fine, just be careful who you are venting to. I may be mad at my husband today and back to being his BFF tomorrow. Some people will throw your own words in your face.

Nothing Stays the Same-Most of us don’t think five, ten, or even fifteen years down the line when we are in wedded bliss. Life events happen such as having children, the loss of jobs, parents, and loved ones. When these things happen, they often change us. These major life events will be the true test of your marriage. It’s easy to love someone when everything in life is perfect, but when things get hard, ugly and messy it’s not always so easy.

It’s Ok to Still Be You-Early on in my marriage; I realized that although my husband and I are now a union, we also needed to maintain our individuality. He lets me be me and I let him be him, otherwise we both would have serious resentments.
Maintain a Sense of Humor-It’s important to still have fun together and laugh. Sometimes when the bills won’t stop, the baby won’t sleep, and then something breaks you literally want to scream and sometimes it’s at each other. When this happens find a reason to laugh.

Make Time for Sex-We are all super busy with careers and or raising children. The laundry and housework is never ending. The to-do- list is just that-a list-and it will be there tomorrow. As a working mother and wife, trust me I’m exhausted most of the time and can barely see straight, Lol. Many couples fail to make time to connect sexually and as a result they are even more stressed, angry, and the man is probably pissed and resentful! Sex is important in any relationship, especially a marriage. If someone tells you otherwise then don’t believe them.

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-Kristle (Keith’s Wife)

 

Motivational Monday –

I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows very well.  

                                                                                                                                  – Psalm 139:14

Have you ever talked to someone and the moment someone else enters the conversation, the other persons entire personality, opinion, and even behaviors changes? It’s one of the most annoying, yet unfortunate things. The reality that so many adult people have not found the comfortableness or realness in being exactly who they are, or feeling/believing in what they say or do. Being able to always be yourself is a liberating and satisfying feeling. It gives you the power to disagree, no matter who the opponent is, or the audience may be. It separates you from the crowd and makes others respect you more. Blending in is boring, and no one truly enjoys people who are boring. It is important for you to be bold, and to be original.

This week, think about places or areas of your life where you have assimilated to fit in and start to change so that you can stand out. Remind yourself daily and each of your thoughts and actions are unique and meaningful. Know that you will never be greater than who you are.

“Be different so that people can see you clearly amongst the crowds.”

                                                                                                                           – Mehmet Murat Ildan

-Kristina

Summer Time Fun on a Budget

Most kids can’t wait until school is out for the summer, but for parents it can be pretty stressful when trying to find activities for them. If you’re a parent who wants to keep your children entertained but you are on a tight budget, do a little online research before choosing activities.

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• Websites like Groupon and Living Social are your friend. They often have affordable deals and activities.

• Check out Home Depot’s website. They often have free monthly activities for children.

• Sometimes children just want to run around and be outside. The playground is always a free option. Annie’s playground in Fallston Maryland is a pretty cool option.

• Storyville at the library is a fun free option. The ages are from newborns to age 5 years.

• Gymboree and My Little Gym are good options for smaller kids. They often have free days where you can take your little one for free play. The ages range from newborn to 5 years old.

• If your budget is really tight, try incorporating at least one free activity such as the library, playground etc., and then you can take your child for ice cream or an inexpensive meal. Most restaurants have inexpensive kids meal options.

• The Baltimore zoo and Aquarium often have days when prices are cheaper.

• Try taking a walk to a park or your local reservoir; it’s free and gives your child the opportunity to explore nature.

• For swimming options, Codorus State park in Pennsylvania has a large pool and a small pool area for babies and toddlers. There is a fee but depending on your child’s height they may be able to swim for free!

Anytime I can find a deal or discount I get excited! Please feel free to share other tips for budget friendly activities for the little ones.

~Kristle (A Budgeting Mom)

 

100 Posts Strong!

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I recently received a notification that Kristina and I have officially posted 100 blog posts to our WordPress website! We are both super excited! We started with just an idea and the goal was to become bloggers, LOL. Today I would say that our goals have expanded. We both love the connection that we make with people and the ability to put something positive out into the universe! In addition, we are both passionate about motherhood and love talking about our sons (LOL), so we figured why not write about them and our experiences of motherhood! It feels really good to look back on previous posts and know that we created something that is entertaining, helpful and so special to us. Kristina and I started when our boys were around 1 ½ and now they are both 3 years old. Whew, time sure does fly! Below I have compiled a few tips for people who would like to start blogging.
1. Blog like no one is reading.
This allows you to be your true and authentic self. I kind of view blogging as a diary; it can be very therapeutic to release your thoughts and ideas.
2. Write about topics that you want to read about.
This is often how I decide what my next topic will be about. We are all super busy, especially those Moms with little babies or super active toddlers LOL, so it’s important to get straight to the point and make the blog interesting.
3. Add pictures.
I find that pictures help to keep people’s attention, especially if the post is lengthy; the pictures kind of break it up. In addition, some people are visual like me, and the pictures help to draw people in.
4. Just don’t quit.
Like anything else consistency is key. Set a realistic expectation and make sure that you hold yourself accountable to it. There are times when you are super busy or life happens to get in the way, don’t get discouraged. Just read and keep blogging.
5. Last but not least…..have fun.
Blogging can be fun, not always but there are times when it is. In order to make blogging fun, be sure to write about fun topics or something that makes you laugh!
-Kristle (A Blogging Mom)
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Motivational Monday – Time

“Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil.”

– Ephesians 5:15-16

We often find ourselves somehow just moving through the days. Today is Monday, and next thing we know it’s Friday. We have no idea how we have gotten here, or what we’ve done in the time between; yet somehow, we have arrived here! We move throughout our days without a plan, lack of emotion, and no destination. If we have a plan, it’s typically just to make it to the weekend. If we have feeling, it’s anticipation for the weekend. That is not living wisely, and doesn’t allow for us to maximize our days. We have so much life to live every day, let’s not waste any of it. It’s our mission to master our days! To ensure that at work we are given our most, that we are providing our families with our greatest selves and saving some of us, for us as well!

This week, we must look forward to living beyond the weekend, the vacation days, holidays, and off days. We all must learn to live in the now all the time, so that we are allowed to make the most of our entire lives, rather than just select days of it. Being able to make use of our days, means that we are better able to create a plan for our futures. Let’s be present always.

“If you don’t know exactly where you’re going, how will you know when you get there?” – Steve Maraboli

  • Kristina G.