Where There is Darkness There Is Always Light…..

“Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.”- Carl Jung

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In a world with so much despair and darkness, why not be a light? If you pay attention to what’s going on in the world then you know that violence is at an all-time high. Natural disasters such as hurricane/tropical storm Harvey have wreaked havoc on Texas and we could go to war at any moment with North Korea, however, one of the great things that has come out of the devastation from Texas has been people volunteering to help others in need. I raise the question, why not be a light?! You never know how just a little positivity such as a smile or asking someone if they need help can go a long way.

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One of the keys to finding true happiness is being grateful and humble. It’s also a big deal when you have the ability to be happy for other people! You don’t have to dim someone else’s light in order for yours to shine bright. Why not celebrate other people’s accomplishments? It takes less energy to be positive and it makes you feel good versus being negative and unhappy. Instead of trying to compete with friends, family, coworkers etc. be happy for them and let them inspire you to reach your dreams and goals. Trust me, your light will shine a lot brighter when you glow from within.

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Life is stressful enough with being a woman, mother, wife, and employee or entrepreneur. Don’t put other people down, especially another woman, when you can help, encourage, and inspire them to reach their full potential. I want all of my friend and family members to do great things! Someone else’s success does not limit my success. Timing is very important and everything happens when it’s supposed to. Right now it might be someone else’s time to shine bright, but don’t worry your time is coming. Always remember to stay positive and shine bright through the darkness.

-Kristle (Kodie’s Mom)

You Did That With Your Toddler?

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One of the most frequent questions that I get as a Mom of a toddler is, why do I do so much with such a young child? Let me start with my own truth about this question. I hate it!! It agitates me to my core, because what I really want to ask in return is…… why do you care what I do with my young toddler? The question really puzzles me, because if others aren’t paying for these outings or adventures, I really don’t understand why any of it matters to them. Yet, no matter what, the question still pops up after most of our many outings. My typical sarcastic response is; why not? There are a million articles that tell parents the importance of reading to your children very early in life. There are articles that stress the importance of play and others that talk about the benefits of having conversations with your children while they’re young. Logically, why wouldn’t exposing your children to new adventures and taking them to different places not benefit them as well?

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It is my goal to expose my son to as many new things as I can every day, week, month, and year of his life. Children learn through play, and experiencing things through touch, and auditory experiences. When I take my three year old to new beaches, I help him decrease his fear of water and learn more about sand, shells, and sea life. When we go to amusement parks, I teach him to be a little more daring and experience gravity. At the Zoo he meets new animal friends, and in every new state that we visit he is able to learn about new cultures, forms of transportation, and places to see. The world is a classroom and a playground for kids. I chose to use it as that for my son while bonding and creating endless memories! It’s also a great way to have him burn his endless energy. A toddler boy will run you crazy if you don’t run them first, so I’m always sure to beat him to the punch!

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For the people who believe that it’s all too much. I’ve learned to shrug them off. To moms like me, you have to do the same. And, for those that are wondering……. he remembers it all! He talks to me in detail about the places we go and is sure to let me know which are his favorites. Being a mother is hard, and not just because you’re busy or tired, but because you are constantly judged! You are judged by family, friends, coworkers, and other moms all of the time. That’s the hard part. Being judged hurts; even for us tough Moms. I have so many moms who tell me that I’m doing my child a disservice because they assume that I never allow him to get bored and have imaginary play. It’s the most hilarious thing in the world to me! I guess that I should be flattered that people believe I am rich enough to keep him that busy. Trust me, I’m no where close. My son actually has a ton of down time where he drives me crazy and does a bunch of imaginary play. If you met my son, you know right away that he has the biggest imagination ever for a three year old.

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To the adventurous moms out there, never allow the questions or judgement of others to impact your flow. We are all moms who do things and live differently, let’s each embrace those differences. Each of us has a super mommy power, never stop another Moms power from shinning brightly.

– Kristina (Kristopher’s Mom)

Motivational Monday – Mastering Distractions

I will meditate on your precepts and fix my eyes on your ways.

Psalm 119:15

Have you ever been in the middle of doing something important like paying a bill, finishing up an important project at work, or trying to complete a thought and someone starts talking to you about something else? Then when you return to complete what you were doing, you realize that your bill is now late or you entered the wrong account number. You may have forgotten to save the project and lost the entire thing! Or that the entire thought has somehow escaped you! This has happened to me a few times. Distractions set us back and throw us completely off of track. As working moms and wives, it can be really difficult sometimes not to get distracted. Distraction is apart of our everyday lives and we have to learn to slow down and manage the distractions that we face daily. Before we walk away from one task we either need to finish it, or make a memorable notation of where we are with something. We also can prepare for distractions. We need to create places where we can get a quiet moment to pay bills, create grocery list, and just breathe for a second. While working, we need to utilize posted notes and calendars to assist with decreasing the amount of information lost during distractions.

There is no true way to guarantee that distractions will never occur with such busy lives, but there are ways to prepare for them. This week, lets each commit to handling our distractions better and having our lives move a little smoother.

“Distraction wastes our energy, concentration restores it.”

Sharon Salzberg

-Kristina

 

Enjoying the Madness of Motherhood

 

 

 

IMG_0290Motherhood is by far the most challenging job that I’ve had to date! The hours are 24-7, you don’t get sick days, and your sleep is constantly interrupted. The toddler tantrums kick in when you least expect it and you feel so helpless when they are sick. On the contrary, it’s also one of the most rewarding and fun experiences that I’ve had. The way that Kodie loves me is unique to anything that I’ve ever experienced. He calls me princess when I get dressed up, LOL. He holds the door for me, tries to carry my grocery bags, and he makes up his own songs, LOL. Although some days can be never ending and really hard, I tell myself that it’s important to savor these moments because they will be gone before I know it. Below I’ve compiled a list of ways to enjoy the madness of motherhood.

What do you do when your toddler has lost his or her mind?

You lose your mind right along with them. I will say. Kodie’s name constantly over and over again until he can’t take it anymore. I’ll have my own tantrum…this includes whining, pretending to cry and asking for stuff over and over again, LOL.

Impromptu dancing is fun.
Kodie loves to dance and I’m not much of a dancer, but the good thing about kids is they don’t judge you. They just think that mommy is funny and silly.
Because I’m an Adult I can eat all the snacks I want!
If Kodie won’t eat his dinner or if he is misbehaving, I will eat his snacks in front of him, LOL. It makes him so mad, LOL. I’ve found that withholding snacks from Kodie has been a very effective form of punishment.

Have your children get stuff for you.
Now that Kodie is a little bigger and he can understand and follow instructions really well, if I forget something upstairs or downstairs I can have him get it for me! When he was a baby and I forgot something I would constantly have to run up and down steps…well not anymore! When I was a kid I hated when my parents would make me get their stuff for them. Adults would always say stuff like, that’s what kids are for, LOL!

Having children is the perfect excuse to watching certain movies/shows.
Kodie and I were watching Pinocchio the other day and I must say it was really good, LOL. I haven’t seen it in years!

Entertainment.
Kodie is not an agreeable child. I can say let’s do this and he will automatically disagree just to disagree. He actually enjoys arguing, LOL. When I’m bored I’ll pick arguments with him and he gets so mad!
-Kristle (Kodie’s Mommy)

Motivational Monday – Still Tansitioning

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There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens

Ecclesiastes 3:1

One of the most uncomfortable periods in the lives of many of us can be times of transitioning. Transitioning can make people uneasy, because it’s an unknown area that will introduce many new experiences and people into our lives. This time of year can be a major period of transition for many people. A lot of us may finally be starting college courses and pursing that new degree that we have been putting off. Some of us could be dropping freshmen students off to college who we swear where just crawling around in diapers. Others may be opening a new business. Whether is a new project, job, just transitioning into another school year with kids, divorcing, or simply a change of mindset; change can be scary.

This week I urge everyone to acknowledge whatever transitions they may be going through. If you aren’t changing anything, check and see if it is time for some change in your life. During this transition period, pray daily. Prayer offers you peace and protection. Start a journal; document your new adventure and the things that you learn along the way. My last suggestion is to stay on course and don’t give up, it may get tough, but you can get tougher! Good luck Monumentals.

“Any transition is easier if you believe in yourself and your talent.”

Priyanka Chopra

– Kristina

Transition Time

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It’s that time of year parents!! Summer is coming close to an end and schools across the country are starting to open their doors and welcome our little ones back in. What does that mean for us? It means that it’s a transition period in many of our homes. We have to not only start transitioning our little ones, but ourselves as well. Our households as a whole have become very laid back in many ways over the summer and it’s time to get everyone back into the swing of things and ready to have a great school year. In this blog, I have provided a few things that we can all start doing to get back on the right track.

Last Whorah!!

Well, first thing first! If you live in a state like mine (Maryland), and your governor has pushed back the start of school until after Labor Day this year, you are in luck! That means you have a little extra time to get one last trip in!! Yay!! Go ahead and plan one last fun adventure for the kids and you. It doesn’t have to be anything big, just something fun, maybe a trip to a local beach, the zoo, or amusement park.

Back-to-School-Shopping

It’s time to chase those sales. Of course none of those jeans from last year zip and all of the shirts are a little tighter than they were before. It is time to hit the stores. Check all the sales out and make a list of what you absolutely need. Go through what you have and determine what they can fit and can’t fit and if you can donate your children’s too small clothes to kids in need that’s always a great deed! Determine when your state does tax free week and try to get some of their school supplies and shopping completed then. Savings is always the key.

Bed Time Blues

Naturally during the summer months, our kids gradually slide away from their set bedtimes. As the summer goes on, bedtimes get later and later. A week or two before school starts is the best time to get your kids back on schedule. It is the time to start limiting screen time and enforcing the bed time now, to avoid the before school struggles.

Dinner and Schedule Planning

This one is for us! If you are a Mom like me, the summer is a small break for you too; during the summer months my meals become lighter along with the schedules. Most sports and other extracurricular activities stop or at least aren’t as frequent in the summer and we get use to a more laid back schedule. With the end of summer approaching and the start of school, many of us parents are saying hello to those busy schedules again. Moms, be sure to get out your daily planners and start utilizing in home message boards. Also, be ready for PTA meetings, school plays, play dates and all the after school events.

Yep, Summer is coming to an end, but no worries, it will be back: NEXT YEAR

-Kristina (Kristopher’s Mom)

Motivational Monday- Make Life Your Beach

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So then we pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another.

Roman 14:19

Today, I had the privilege of spending the morning and afternoon on the beach. I watched planes fly by, listened to different music, enjoyed the running, splashing, and laughter of children, watched people tan in the sun, read books, and just enjoy each other. No one appeared rushed, angry or sad; everyone seemed at peace. We live very few days this way, we spend about 2 to 3 weeks; that’s 21 days out of 365 at peace and live the others in frequent stress and consistent movement. We are cheating ourselves. We are cheating ourselves, by depriving ourselves 344 days of the year. Starting today, we must find a way to live calmer and happier. We have to make it our mission carve out our peaceful places in our everyday lives, so that we can live longer and healthier. Less stress means less hospital visits and more years to enjoy the moments that make us smile.

This week, lets each commit to making our lives better. Not to making more money or buying larger homes, but to overall living better. Let’s all make everyone of our days as peaceful as sitting at the shore of the beach.

“A lion’s work hours are only when he’s hungry; once he’s satisfied, the predator and prey live peacefully together.”

– Chuck Jones

– Kristina

Twenty-Minute Workouts for Busy Moms

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Since becoming a Mom, I’ve found that it’s imperative to manage my time effectively especially since I don’t have a lot of uninterrupted time to myself. These days using the bathroom alone is kind of a big deal, LOL! There’s always something to be done around the house. The to-do lists are endless from grocery shopping to doing laundry, to teaching, and playing with and bathing a stubborn toddler! Whew, I’m exhausted just thinking about everything to do. Managing a house and taking care of a kid(s) is a full time job on top of my actual full time job so often times as Moms our health and fitness tends to take a back seat.

I don’t know about you, but after work I have to cook, clean and get a toddler ready for the next day. To spend an hour or two in the gym is just not practical in this current phase of my life. But I also want to be healthy as well as look good and feel good. Luckily, I’ve found three 20 minute workouts that are amazing! I love them because you can do them at home with or without the kids. They make you feel like you are about to die, which in this case is good, because you want to use your time wisely and feel like you’ve accomplished something! Also, the workouts on YouTube are free!

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1. 30 Day Shred by Jillian Michaels
This is a DVD that can be purchased online. It’s been out for a while and is a very effective workout. I used this DVD on and off for years, especially around the time of my wedding. This workout still kicks my butt!

2. Relentless Jake-You tube
This work out is no joke! It will have you out of breath and gasping for air, Lol!

3. Class Fitsugar-You tube
I tried this workout for the first time today and thought to myself that this woman is crazy! She has you doing stuff that you didn’t even know your body was capable of doing, Lol!

Please be sure to share some of your workout plans!

~Kristle (a Busy Mom)

Motivational Monday – Walking Away

Walk away from the company of fools, for you cannot find insight in their words.

Proverbs 14:7

In life, we sometimes are faced with situations where we are unable to find a resolution or understanding that works well for us or even the other parties involved. People tend to complicate things and the more complicated things become, the more drained we can get. We will spend endless amounts of time at dead end jobs, in meaningless friendships, with significant others that don’t increase the positives in our lives, and fighting battles for others that they have no interest in standing up for. Those types of situations take time and energy away from us that we may never get back. They begin to steal our joy and smiles; making us broken people. From those situations, we must learn that there are times and places in life where we must learn to walk away. Walking away is never easy, but can be necessary. If you ever find yourself in one of these situations, stop immediately. Take your time to assess the problem and determine how much of you, you will have to sacrifice to resolve it and if it can be resolved by you.

This week, find the dead relationships and areas of your life, and chose to walk away from them. Walking away is not a terrible thing, because you could mean walking into new opportunities. Start preparing yourself for your dream job, for the perfect home, the right love, better friends, and so much more.

“Shout out to everyone transcending a mindset, mentality, desire, belief, emotion, habit, behavior or vibration, that no longer serves them.”

-Lalah Delia

Kristina