Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.
Have you ever felt like you’re consistently being taken advantage of? Are you that person that will do anything for others, but it always feels as if people just somehow need more? If you answered yes to those two questions, you probably struggle with boundaries. Don’t feel bad about it, because many of us do. It’s so easy sometimes to give so freely, to forgive so easily, and to agree to things that you really don’t want to do. We often tell ourselves we are just helping and being good people. What we are really are doing is failing to establish clear boundaries. We are allowing people to use us until we’re empty. We frequently end up at events we never wanted to attend, celebrating people we don’t like that well, exhausted from crazy disagreements, and doing a million things that we don’t have time for.
Establishing healthy boundaries are very good for relationships, friendships, and working partnerships. No one likes to feel taken advantage of, or unappreciated, but when we fail to establish boundaries, we are typically left with those exact emotions. Over time those feelings boil over and turn into negative explosive emotions. Boundaries protect everyone from those nasty moments.
This week I want everyone with boundary issues to set the goal of establishing some. Start off slow by just telling people no, and gradually move into declining events and rejecting extra assigned responsibilities. We each deserve to chose ourselves first sometimes!
“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”
Shannon L. Alder