Motivational Monday – Selfishness

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves

Philippians 2:3

Selfishness probably lives somewhere in each of us. In some of us it lives deeper than others. In others it lives openly and runs freely throughout our work places and homes, making each of our lives less pleasurable. Selfish people have a way of draining the life out of others. They can’t seem to think beyond themselves and use up more time than they ever needed. Leaving others depleted and seeking additional services, resources, and assistance in other places. There are times where each of us should chose ourselves, but that’s typically because we don’t often do so. In many ways, it’s natural for man to place themselves first. Self preservation is one of the most natural instincts ever; but how great do we each feel when we go beyond our natural instincts? Where would our society or lives be, if we didn’t look beyond ourselves?

If you’re the selfish person, it’s not too late to stop. If you know other selfish people, don’t beat them up about it, but step in and try to gradually help them see it and change it. We have to both want to and learn to be better people! Let’s all work at it together!

“A man wrapped up in himself makes a very small bundle.”
– unknown

Kristina

Marriage Chronicles-Part I

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Marriage-A legal joining of two people, a union (dictionary.com)
I’ve been married for 5 years now and I will say that there are some things that my married friends and or family members failed to mention before I tied the knot. Don’t get me wrong, marriage is a beautiful thing, but with the wrong person it can be a disaster. I will also say that before marriage there were some things that I didn’t really consider. Below I’ve compiled a list of things that most people don’t talk about!

I love my husband……but
Although I love my husband I don’t always like him or the things that he does. There- I’ve said it! So now you know that you are not alone in this, Lol. The important thing to remember when these feelings arise is that they are temporary (hopefully, Lol). Try not to lash out or say something really mean that you may regret later. Sometimes it’s not even about your spouse when you feel this way, you may just be tired, hungry, or having a bad day.

Don’t Tell Everybody Your Business-This is some of the best advice that I’ve received. As women we are emotional and when we are upset we sometimes need to vent. This is fine, just be careful who you are venting to. I may be mad at my husband today and back to being his BFF tomorrow. Some people will throw your own words in your face.

Nothing Stays the Same-Most of us don’t think five, ten, or even fifteen years down the line when we are in wedded bliss. Life events happen such as having children, the loss of jobs, parents, and loved ones. When these things happen, they often change us. These major life events will be the true test of your marriage. It’s easy to love someone when everything in life is perfect, but when things get hard, ugly and messy it’s not always so easy.

It’s Ok to Still Be You-Early on in my marriage; I realized that although my husband and I are now a union, we also needed to maintain our individuality. He lets me be me and I let him be him, otherwise we both would have serious resentments.
Maintain a Sense of Humor-It’s important to still have fun together and laugh. Sometimes when the bills won’t stop, the baby won’t sleep, and then something breaks you literally want to scream and sometimes it’s at each other. When this happens find a reason to laugh.

Make Time for Sex-We are all super busy with careers and or raising children. The laundry and housework is never ending. The to-do- list is just that-a list-and it will be there tomorrow. As a working mother and wife, trust me I’m exhausted most of the time and can barely see straight, Lol. Many couples fail to make time to connect sexually and as a result they are even more stressed, angry, and the man is probably pissed and resentful! Sex is important in any relationship, especially a marriage. If someone tells you otherwise then don’t believe them.

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-Kristle (Keith’s Wife)

 

Motivational Monday –

I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows very well.  

                                                                                                                                  – Psalm 139:14

Have you ever talked to someone and the moment someone else enters the conversation, the other persons entire personality, opinion, and even behaviors changes? It’s one of the most annoying, yet unfortunate things. The reality that so many adult people have not found the comfortableness or realness in being exactly who they are, or feeling/believing in what they say or do. Being able to always be yourself is a liberating and satisfying feeling. It gives you the power to disagree, no matter who the opponent is, or the audience may be. It separates you from the crowd and makes others respect you more. Blending in is boring, and no one truly enjoys people who are boring. It is important for you to be bold, and to be original.

This week, think about places or areas of your life where you have assimilated to fit in and start to change so that you can stand out. Remind yourself daily and each of your thoughts and actions are unique and meaningful. Know that you will never be greater than who you are.

“Be different so that people can see you clearly amongst the crowds.”

                                                                                                                           – Mehmet Murat Ildan

-Kristina

Happy Father’s Day

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Monumental Moms would like to acknowledge all Monumental Dads!!! Fathers’ Day is today, and where we love our wonderful dads all the time, we would like to honor them a little more with this post. Dad’s are a major part of parenting, they are the superheroes of the household. Dads chase monsters away, flex their big muscles, and protect mommy and the kids. Who doesn’t love dads? Even when dads are completing stressing Moms out, moms still love having dads at home.

Here’s our top 10 reasons that we love dads!!

1. Dads give the best piggy back rides
2. Dads will eat their food, the kids food, and your food…. no leftovers!
3. Dads can build anything out of nothing
4. Dads can always make you laugh no matter how sad you are
5. Dads work hard for their families
6. Dads always make you feel safe
7. Dads always find the most creative solutions to any of your problems
8. Dads make the funniest sounds with their bodies, no matter how much mom hates him to.
9. Dads will let you do all the adventurous things that mom is afraid to
10. Dads love us!

Happy Father’s Day!!!

-Kristina

 

Motivational Monday – Don’t forget to Clap

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If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together.

1 Corinthians 12:26

Imagine a work environment or just group where all women supported each other. Where the success of one, was recognized and celebrated by many. One where women gossiped less, and hate didn’t exist amongst us, an existence where we stopped allowing the opinions of others to invade our thoughts and beliefs. Above all, we are women. That is one of our main commonalities. It’s what unites us, and should encourage us to look out for each other more. We don’t recognize the disservice that we do to ourselves, by not uplifting the women around us. In the work place especially, we can become catty, two-faced, and unsupportive of each other easily. We have a habit of speaking poorly of other women, more than we speak life into them. How can we expect to grow or be blessed, when participating in such awfulness?

This week, lets each vow to make a personal change. There will always be those that we may not 100% like, but it doesn’t mean that we still cant congratulate and support each other. It especially doesn’t mean that we have to speak ill of one another. We must learn to clap for each other, because that clapping builds the self-esteem of each of us, while strengthening the maturity of all of us.

“There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.”

– John Holmes

– Kristina

 

 

– Kristina

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Summer Time Fun on a Budget

Most kids can’t wait until school is out for the summer, but for parents it can be pretty stressful when trying to find activities for them. If you’re a parent who wants to keep your children entertained but you are on a tight budget, do a little online research before choosing activities.

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• Websites like Groupon and Living Social are your friend. They often have affordable deals and activities.

• Check out Home Depot’s website. They often have free monthly activities for children.

• Sometimes children just want to run around and be outside. The playground is always a free option. Annie’s playground in Fallston Maryland is a pretty cool option.

• Storyville at the library is a fun free option. The ages are from newborns to age 5 years.

• Gymboree and My Little Gym are good options for smaller kids. They often have free days where you can take your little one for free play. The ages range from newborn to 5 years old.

• If your budget is really tight, try incorporating at least one free activity such as the library, playground etc., and then you can take your child for ice cream or an inexpensive meal. Most restaurants have inexpensive kids meal options.

• The Baltimore zoo and Aquarium often have days when prices are cheaper.

• Try taking a walk to a park or your local reservoir; it’s free and gives your child the opportunity to explore nature.

• For swimming options, Codorus State park in Pennsylvania has a large pool and a small pool area for babies and toddlers. There is a fee but depending on your child’s height they may be able to swim for free!

Anytime I can find a deal or discount I get excited! Please feel free to share other tips for budget friendly activities for the little ones.

~Kristle (A Budgeting Mom)

 

Motivational Monday – Break Time

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Matthew 8:24 And behold, there arose a great storm on the sea, so that the boat was being swamped by the waves; but he was asleep. (Jesus rested)

We parent, we work, we take care of homes, manage grown adults (significant others), attend classes, and so much more every day; so today’s message is to take a break. Whatever that special moment is for you, take it and start taking it more often, because you need it. As women, caretakers, employees and mothers we often feel guilty for taking a moment out for ourselves, but we shouldn’t. Taking time for you, helps to replenish your spirit and physical body. There is only so much that any of us can do before we break down, so let’s prevent that breakdown by getting ahead with some pre-planned breaks. Find some time during your breaks at work to sit quietly and just be a peace with yourself. In the mornings, wake up five minutes earlier to meditate. At night, take an extra half hour to read a good book and settle your mind.

Take some time this week to plan a movie day, massage, girls night, morning run, or whatever else rejuvenates you!!! Just make sure that you take your moment. We all have to find the time to carve out for ourselves.

“There is virtue in work and there is virtue in rest. Use both and overlook neither.” — Alan Cohen;

– Kristina

Waves and Water

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Summer is quickly approaching and vacation season has officially started. It’s that time of year where families will start venturing off to beaches, pools, water parks, amusement parks, and plenty of other places where our little people get wet. The number one thing that we want to be sure of when sending our little ones out to play in the water and sun is that we are prepared. Before you have your kids start their adventure, be sure to get some enjoyable books to share with your one about their upcoming escapade. The will help them learn more about water, and water safety. It will also get them even more excited. You should consider investing in swimming courses as well for your children. According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention one out of every five people that die from drowning are under the age of 14. Swimming is an important skill for your kids to have and we can never be too safe. Now that we’ve looked at the basics, let’s review some additional water essentials:

Don’t forget:

-Water shoes are a must- let’s prevent any foot fungus or that nasty feeling from just walking around in nasty changing rooms, bathrooms, or having to get extra sand from between small toes.  Water shoes are an immense help. They provide coverage for the foot, while keeping their feet clean, and away from bumpy rocks.

-Life guard jackets: head to the store and purchase a life guard certified jacket for your little one. Don’t depend on faculties always having their sizes, or that they just won’t go that far in at the beach. It’s always important to be safe when water is involved.

-Purchase water proof phone cases to capture all the best pictures: you don’t want to miss a moment. You want to catch them running out when the water splashes up to surprise them, or they jump their first wave.

-Plan to spend endless hours wet: getting a kid to leave the water is nearly impossible! No matter how tired or hungry they are, they will refuse to leave no matter what!! Most kids are just naturally drawn to water!

-Sunscreen if it’s a day at the beach: never forget the sunscreen. The skin of children is a lot more sensitive than adults and burns a lot faster. Be sure to purchase a waterproof sunscreen to cover their skin.

-Ear plugs: if your child is ear infection prone, if you have a “splasher,” or a child who plays near one, ear plugs may be a clever idea. Water can get trapped in the ear and create a swimmer’s ear, causing a bad ear ache. Ear plugs help prevent this.

-Eye Protection: if your little one is a glasses wearer like mine, you will need a strap or another form of glasses to offer vision assistance when splashing around in and out of water.

 

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Here’s a few reasons why water play is important:

Decreases fear of water

Builds confidence

Good exercise

Increases social development from interaction with other kids

In younger children, it assists with developing fine motor skills. The squirting, pouring, and squeezing.

I’ll be posting some great places to take your kids to have some fun in the water and sun as well. Where it can be a lot of work to get out the house, and a long day at park or beach with your little one, I promise you that it will always be worth it!!!

I hope that your summer is full of splashes, sun, and fun!!

– Kristina (Kristopher’s Mom)

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