Mommy Bloggers

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Kristina and I initially came up with the idea of blogging when Kodie and Kristopher were still babies; however, we didn’t actually start blogging until the boys were around a year and a half. We had so many great ideas but fear stood in the way! I have to admit that before I started blogging, my perception was very distorted LOL. I just knew that Kristina and I would be an overnight success! I just knew that we would take off running and we would have thousands of followers with all of this success but the reality is that like anything else, success does not happen overnight. Below are some tips for people who are new to blogging or for people who may be having some growing pains in life:

1). Just Do It
Taking action is the first step to anything. You can have all of the ideas in the world but if you don’t put them into action then they mean nothing. My very first post was about stepping out of your comfort zone. In that post I talk about how you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone and stop talking yourself out of things. I literally push myself every time I write a post LOL, but once it’s done I feel good.
2). Don’t Be So Serious
Life is hard, work is hard, and raising children is hard! Don’t make blogging so serious. My job is actually pretty serious but I love to laugh so I guess that’s a conundrum. I find ways to still have fun while at work; otherwise all of the seriousness would get to me LOL. Find ways to laugh even if it’s at yourself! I often try to have humor in my posts because I have enough seriousness in the day to day LOL.
3). Don’t Be So Critical of Yourself
You’re going to make mistakes such as spelling errors and grammatical errors but it’s ok; it’s not the end of the world! Don’t over analyze your post. The main thing is to write it and then post it!
4). You Will Want to Give Up
There are weeks when I literally wait until the last minute to write a post because either I could not think of a good topic or I just don’t really feel like it. Sometimes, I will almost convince myself not to do it at all because we don’t have a lot of readers who read our blog, but then I just do it! Why? Because after I write a post I feel a sense of accomplishment and even if we don’t have thousands of followers yet, there are some people who support and enjoy our posts.
5). Consistency is Key
Even on those days when you don’t feel like blogging, just think of the big picture. The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is that the successful person kept going until they reached their goal, whereas the unsuccessful person stopped probably right before they reached their goal. This can apply to many aspects of life such as eating healthy, working out etc.
6). Have Fun Blogging
I’ve come to think of blogging as an outlet. Sometimes it helps to just release whatever thoughts or feelings you have. Even if blogging isn’t your full time job and you don’t get paid to do it, you can still make if fun.

~Kristle (a Mommy Blogger)

“Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm.” Sir Winston Churchill

“The value of an idea lies in the using of it.” Thomas Edison

“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.” Albert Einstein

“The harder the conflict, the greater the triumph.” George Washington

“Write what you know.” Mark Twain

Monday Motivation – Elimination

“Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.”

                                                                                                                            1 Corinthians 15:33

We can make plans and then actually step forward to execute them, but if we aren’t surrounded by the right people, then those perfect plans may never happen. One of the hardest things for many of us to understand is the need for separation. Everyone that’s there at the beginning of our journey, is not always meant to stay to the end. The people that we surround ourselves with, are the energy that we ourselves absorb. You can be one of the most positive people in the world, but with negative energy around you, you’ll always fall behind. When making major moves in your life, or simply embarking on a new journey, there may be times where you must alter your surroundings. It doesn’t always mean that the people in your circle are poisoning you, but that sometimes we simply outgrown each other or need to take different paths. When this occurs stay positive, be understanding of it, and continue to move in the direction that you need to go.

This week, begin to look at the things and people in your life that are holding you hostage. Identify them and eliminate them. Your dreams are too precious to miss out on.

Fire False Friends as early as possible. Do it before they dig out the dream seeds you’ve planted! The earlier, the better; the quicker, the safer!

                                                                                                                                           Israelmore Ayivor

-Kristina

 

 

Yellow Fighter (Endometriosis)

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I remember feeling alone and lost. I remember my now husband and then boyfriend, telling me how crazy I was. How it was impossible that just brushing by my stomach could cause so much pain, or that my digestive system couldn’t possibly move so quickly after eating and cause diarrhea. I can recall the times of embarrassment, where my car seat would be bloody from after driving to work, and always having to carry a change of clothes in my trunk. I know what it’s like to be in so much pain that you aren’t sure how you can live another day with it.

Endometriosis, attempts to steal my life and my joy everyday, but I refuse to allow it to. I attend events with a smile on face, but a tampon and pad on for double protection. I move slow sometimes from the incredible pain that rolls through my body, but I stay active. I go to work, and spend the whole day with my stomach, back, uterus, and pelvic area feeling as if it’s on fire. There are days I’m extremely fatigue and others where my head pounds for hours, yet I’m always up and accounted for. Ladies, suffering from any chronic illness, remember that you are tougher!

What is endometriosis?

Endometriosis (Endo), occurs when the tissue that usually grow in the uterus, starts growing in other places and causing scar tissue.

Signs to Watch for:

1. Clotting during cycles
2. Excessive bleeding
3. Longer than usual cycles
4. Pain in your stomach, back, rectum, vagina, pelvis, or ovaries
5. Pain during intercourse
6. Constipation and difficulty defecating
7. Infertility
8. Bloating
9. Fatigue

Interesting Facts:

– March is Endometrosis Month and you can wear yellow to support

-Endometriosis tissue has been found in other places than just the uterus. It has been seen in the lungs and even the brain.

-Whatever the blood touches, it typically scars and the scars become inflamed when woman’s cycle starts no matter where it is.

-It can cause depression in women suffering. It’s a chronic illness that many don’t understand and will often brush off as just a bad cycle that women suffering need to get over.

-It’s not just pain during a cycle. It can cause other illnesses, like IBS. It makes bowel movements difficult, and can also cause pain during intercourse.

-There is no cure.

-Having a hysterectomy, doesn’t stop Endometriosis.

-Most women aren’t diagnosed right away and suffer for years.

-It’s diagnosed through surgery only

Ways that I have found Comfort:

-Soaking in hot baths.

-Trying to get plenty of rest during cycles.

-Heating pads.

-Exercise, it relieves stress and helps the body become overall stronger.

-Sharing with others what I’m experiencing. Having a friend that understands the disease is a blessing.

-Learning more about Endometriosis. Knowledge is power!

To any others suffering with endometriosis, know that you aren’t alone.

-Kristina

 

 

 

The Mystery of Dreams

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This week’s post is about dreams. Not our goals and aspiration kind of dreams but the dreams that come to us when we are sleeping. For as long as I can remember, my dreams have seemed very real and vivid and they have been literal. What I mean is that while some people’s dreams mean the opposite of what they dreamed, mine are actually quit literal. I’ve had dreams that friends have gotten new jobs and promotions and it happened. I’ve had several dreams that my friends or associates were pregnant and at some point it has happened. I guess I’m kind of a baby whisperer, Lol.

Before I got pregnant with Kodie, I had a dream that I would have a baby in February. Kodie was born February 5th. Shortly after I found out that I was pregnant I dreamed that he was a boy! For me, dreams have kind of been a way for me to literally process information. Sometimes, if I can’t figure something out the answer will often come to me in a dream. I strongly believe that our dreams have a way of preparing us for the good and bad in life.

So, if you are like me and your dreams are more than just dreams; don’t be afraid and don’t think that something is wrong with you. Remember that we all have different gifts so embrace your uniqueness. We all have the gift of intuition, some just don’t use it.

~Kristle: Kodie’s Mommy

Dreams are illustrations… from the book your soul is writing about you. ~Marsha Norman

A dream which is not interpreted is like a letter which is not read. ~The Talmud

The best thing about dreams is that fleeting moment, when you are between asleep and awake, when you don’t know the difference between reality and fantasy, when for just that one moment you feel with your entire soul that the dream is reality, and it really happened. ~James Arthur Baldwin

Motivational Monday – Bravery

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Last week we discussed making a plan and moving forward with it. Today, the message is to, “Be Brave.” We create great plans, and start working on the beginning steps of them, until that nasty thing called fear shows up. Many of us allow that fear to either derail us, or to stop us completely, but we shouldn’t and can’t continue to let it rule us. Fear is a distraction sent to sabotage all of your hard work. Setbacks, bumps in the road, and a ton of other things happen along the way of getting to our dreams and achieving our goals, but they aren’t meant to stop us. I believe the saying, “What doesn’t kill you, only makes you stronger,” is true! That’s exactly where strength rises up from. Strength is a challenge that has been overcome, and a fear that is no longer scary.

The next time you feel fear creeping up in your mind, stomach, or wherever it tries to slide out from, pray. Allow Your faith to outweigh your fears. Every morning that fear shows it’s ugly head, read an affirmation out loud to yourself. The best way to beat fear is to face it, but you don’t have to do it alone. Take your prayers, affirmations, and positive energy to strike it down. Be brave Monumentals!

-Kristina

Finding Your Voice

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I’m a Leo woman, and I believe that I fit my sign very well. I enjoy attention and I typically get a lot of it from friends, family, and even strangers. I’m a 100% natural born leader. Even when I’m being quiet and laid back, I somehow end up still leading the pack in some way. I have a super big heart and will immediately jump into action to help anyone. I also know that I can be a little bossy at times (not often), and that I’m a natural hunter. I hunt for everything; sales, vacations, degrees, new activities, and whatever else I get fixated on. The one thing that consistently surprises me as a Leo is that I rarely roar! I have a ton of thoughts towards things, but for the sake of keeping peace, it takes everything to push me into reacting. My failure to use my voice right away is a good thing and a bad thing. Where I keep the peace a lot, I realize that having a voice is important as a woman, wife, and mother. 

As a woman, maneuvering through everyday life, our voices are important at work and in our personal lives. For myself, I have noticed that people will push me further than they will others. It really upsets me at times, yet I will rarely say anything about it. The issue is that I only have 0 and 100. Anything in between generally doesn’t happen, so to keep my professionalism and friendships, I stay at zero. The other day, someone told me, “You don’t have to raise your temper or voice to correct people when they mistreat you.” I’ve thought a lot about that over the past few days and I get it. To achieve that however, I must start addressing things immediately to prevent them from escalating. I’m finally ready to start that journey.  To other women struggling, stop! It causes you unnecessary stress and gives people the wrong sense of fake power over you.  

As a wife, we are told to be submissive, but I think we confuse that meaning. We can be understanding and agreeable, without being a doormat. Three years into marriage, I think my voice has come in well. I’m married with two step children, from two different moms. Things can get heated in that dynamic often. At the beginning, I consistently placed myself far last, but I have now found the power in ‘no.” As wives, we must speak up for ourselves, because our happiness or unhappiness has so much power in our households. If you’re a wife struggling to find your voice, start writing your thoughts down and slowly begin to implement your “No” into your household. Trust me, it will save you and your marriage in the long run. 

As a mom, I’ve learned that my voice is extremely important, and in this area, I don’t struggle. That lioness and cub bond overpowers everything. My mother told me when I was just 2 months into motherhood, that mothers don’t get the privilege of being a calm a lot. That we must be raging waters to protect our kids, and I believe that. Children aren’t old enough to fight most of life’s battles, so it’s our jobs as mothers to have the fearlessness and voice to do so. When it comes to your children’s health, education, and wellbeing, never back down.  

Motherhood, has taught me how to be a lioness more and more, in so many other areas of my life. Where I am still a work in progress, my voice is as strong as it’s ever been. To other mothers, wives, and women out there, find you inner lioness and allow her to speak. You deserve to be heard and respected. Roar when necessary Monumental Moms. 

 

Motivational Monday – Planning (Being a Go-Getter)

Commit to the Lord whatever you do,
and he will establish your plans.
Proverbs 16:3

Moving forward, or up, or even just out of something requires planning. Planning is a major part of being a go-getter and achieving the goals that you have set for yourself. Many of us attempt something, fail, and then wonder what happened. What happened was that we either neglected to plan, or didn’t plan well. Having a structured, but flexible plan is important to reaching your set goals. A plan gives you direction, helps you to break down your endeavor into reasonable steps, lets others know that you are serious, and allows for you to see your progress.

This week’s motivation is centered on being a go-getter. The first step discussed is planning. Whatever goals that you’re currently trying to reach, please stop now and either create a plan, or look over the one that you have. It’s never too late or too early to start. Good luck Monumentals!

Any time women come together with a collective intention, it’s a powerful thing. Whether it’s sitting down making a quilt, in a kitchen preparing a meal, in a club reading the same book, or around the table playing cards, or planning a birthday party, when women come together with a collective intention, magic happens.

– Phylicia Rashad
– Kristina

Why Am I Here and What is My Purpose?

IMG_5698.JPGHave you ever wondered why you are here and what your purpose is? This is a question that we all ask ourselves at some point in our lives. For me, after becoming a Mom it was more important than ever to find my true purpose in life. I was meant to be a Mom and I feel that motherhood is definitely one of my purposes in life, but there is also more purpose for me. I believe that one of my callings in life is to be a listening ear and an inspiration to others. I consider myself an introvert who has extrovert tendencies at times, LOL. I actually enjoy being a loner and not being around a lot of people, but there are also times when I enjoy the company of others.

Throughout my life people have always been drawn to me even when I didn’t want to be bothered, LOL. Even as a teenager, strangers would walk up to me and share their problems and some would literally share their life stories. I realized early on that people felt comfortable talking to me even about intimate details of their life. My friends would always call me when they needed advice, we would have counseling sessions LOL; they would tell me their problems and I would offer solutions.

In college, I realized that I wanted to help people, so I studied psychology with the goal of becoming a counselor. I then changed my mind and no longer wanted to be a counselor because it became overwhelming listening to people’s issues, LOL. The irony is that I listen to people’s problems as a probation agent and try to make a positive impact on people’s lives. Someone once told me that this is who you are and you can’t help what you are.

As mothers, it’s very easy to lose yourself! It’s easy to put your own interests, hobbies, and goals on the backburner, however, to be truly fulfilled you must find what makes you happy! So I encourage anyone who is discouraged and overwhelmed or who just can’t seem to make time to figure out their own life’s purpose to remember that we all have special gifts and talents that need to be shared with the world!
“When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say that I used everything you gave me.” –Erma Bombeck
-Kristle (Kodies Mommy)