Motivational Monday- Faith and Time

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The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.

Proverbs 16:9

We are born with dreams, ambitions, and goals, and each one of us are capable of achieving them. It takes dedication, hard work, and focus to reach your goals, but never believe that they are out of your reach. No dream or goal is beyond you, and we don’t fail when we don’t reach them. We have to understand that where we create the plan or idea, God directs our path towards it. The path is not always instant, or straight. It can often take a lifetime, and can be full of pitfalls and potholes. How do we reach our ultimate destination, is by working hard and praying faithfully. There is nothing greater than the direction of God, and the work that we put in.

This week, when you get discouraged, remember to stop and pray. Have that faith of a mustard seed and figure out a way to push through the trials, letdowns, and setbacks. Always remember that setbacks, are only setups to step forward.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.

Brian Tracy

Learning to Count

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At 33 years old, with a dual undergraduate degree, and a master’s degree, 11 years into my career, 3 years into marriage, and 2 years and 10 months into Motherhood; I am just learning to count. I know, it’s sad, and sounds really crazy! I’m sure you’re thinking, who married her, who passed her in school, who hired her to work, and what is she teaching her son! Lol. No worries though, my husband is smart enough for the both of us, I attended great schools, I rock with my clients at work, and my son can count to 20 really well. Yet, yes I have sadly just learned to count!

Let me stop dragging you all along, and get to the point. Before, motherhood, I had no idea what counting truly meant! I would see Moms counting in the stores to their toddlers, and even to themselves at times. I can remember mothers in my family laying their kids in their beds for nap and bedtime, and start counting as they close the door. Who would have known that counting was such a big part of parenthood? Especially, for moms. However, I’m now a proud counter! Kristopher knows how to take my pressure completely through the roof. He can literally reach the last nerve that I have been praying he wouldn’t find, and the older he gets, the better I have learned to count!!! I use to be the woman who shook her head at Moms counting down before enforcing some type of discipline with their kids. I would think, they did it, now place them in time out for goodness sakes! Now, I understand that it just doesn’t work like that! We count as Moms to give them an opportunity to correct themselves, and most importantly, to give ourselves chances to behave like sane people, instead of raging beast! As a parent, I’ve learned that it’s not coffee that gets me through, it’s counting

I now find myself just counting everywhere, all of the time. I hate being placed on hold, so in efforts to not get too agitated, I’ve learned to count. At work when I’m asked to do someone else’s task for the hundredth time, I smile and count. I have learned to use counting to be a better person and parent. Counting has saved my son’s life and kept me out of jail! Together, he and I, also count a lot. We go outside and count trees, we count stairs, count for hide-n-go-seek, and for most of his games. Counting has become a major part of my life, in such an unexpected way. Moms, when you find yourself about to lose it all, just learn to count!

– Kristina, Kristopher’s Mommy

Motivational Monday – Healthy Eating

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“Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”

1 Corinthians 6:19-20
The New Year has come and gone, and many of us has recently celebrated a holiday known for sweet treats and big dinners. It’s safe to say, that some of us are no longer providing our bodies, with the healthy eating adjustments that we promised ourselves on January 1st. The days have become fuller, and it has gotten easier for us to fall off our healthy practices. No longer making the effort to eat healthy, will hurt us sooner or later. To be the vivacious, fierce, multitasking, and charming women that we each work towards excelling at being, we have to feed our bodies the energy it needs. It’s understandable however, that, that’s easier said then done. When you’re working 8 plus hours a day, you tend to eat what’s assessable. When we have a family to assist at providing for, we tend to feed ourselves cheaply. We have to figure out a way to each break the vicious cycle of negative eating!

This week, start writing a list of healthy snacks that you can purchase at a decent price. Once you complete that list, start purchasing those snacks. Gradually, start changing your daily meals one at a time. There is no need to rush into big changes, or strict diets. Just commit to making small changes over time.

“Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food”  ~Hippocrates

– Kristina

Motherhood is Happening for You

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Motherhood is happening for you and not to you….
This is one of the most profound quotes that I’ve heard! I was listening to “The Mama Truth Show which is a Podcast” (sidenote…..this podcast is amazing) when I heard this statement I literally had an Aha moment! If you ask any Mom about motherhood, they will admit that it can be really rough at times. It literally is a 24-hour job, with no clock out time and no end date. When you’re in the midst of dealing with a full-fledged delirious screaming toddler sometimes you just want to scream too, LOL.
For me, it can be really stressful when trying to get out of the house in the morning for work with my little toddler. This morning was a rough morning for me; my toddler was testing me. Who Am I kidding-Kodie is always testing me! Every day is a test, sometimes multiple times a day! After getting myself and Kodie fully dressed, I told Kodie to sit on the pot. He sat on the pot and insisted that he did not need to use the bathroom, however minutes later while brushing his teeth he decided that he was just going to “pee on himself” and that’s what he did! When he first told me that he peed I just knew that he was playing with me, LOL! Well the joke was on me because he did actually pee on himself! His clothes were completely soaked in urine and I was already running late and I just wanted to scream! After changing Kodie’s entire outfit, we finally managed to make it out of the house and I was only a little late for work.
Motherhood is happening for you and not to you. To me this means that although being a mother can be really challenging it’s not meant to harden or bring out the worst in you, in fact it’s supposed to empower you and push you to be the best version of yourself. Motherhood is happening for you….for most women once you become a mother you actually become less selfish and self- absorbed. You realize that the world does not revolve around you. Most mothers are actually better people post motherhood. Motherhood is not happening to you….In spite of all of the craziness and madness your child is not out to drive you crazy because they actually really do love you, sometimes they just don’t know how to show it, LOL. The beautiful part of motherhood is watching the little person that you helped create become his or her own person with their own likes, dislikes, and opinions.
“Motherhood is a monumental event”!-Monumental Moms
Kristle- A monumental mom

Motivational Monday – Faith of a Mustard Seed

img_2354Life is often a series of trials, and over time we get savvy at maneuvering through those highs and lows. We convince ourselves that we have unbreakable faith, because we’ve managed to stay on course. Then a life altering event hits us, and our faith is tested. All of a sudden, prayer, patience, and peace become very hard things to conquer. We try to pray, but it feels as if there is no answer. We attempt to be patient, but every 5 minutes we’re searching for our resolution in the form of a miracle that hasn’t arrived yet. It is then that peace becomes just a distant memory for most of us.

It’s easy to have faith during regular days, and even when things get a little rocky. However, the true test of that faith comes when you are scared out of your mind and fearful that there is no solution in sight. It’s then that you need the faith of a mustard seed. You don’t have to be perfect in it, you just have to trust, and believe it. You must surrender yourself, to knowing that God will see you through.

So this week, as stressors arise, smile and move forward. Smile, because you know that you have prayed and that your prayers are soon going to move mountains. Have the faith of a mustard seed, Monumental Moms!

– Kristina

Life as a Wife

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When I became a wife, like most women I was on cloud nine. I was ready to be whatever a wife was supposed to be, but that was the problem! Again, like most women, I truly had no idea what a wife was supposed to be. When you get married, no one gives you a manual of what you are supposed to do, how you’re supposed to handle situations, or of all the things you shouldn’t do. Marriage is truly a day-by-day learning process and sometimes the learning curve can be slow. No manual exists that can teach any of us how to be a wife, because being a wife is different for each women, and every household.

Being a wife has been one of the most interesting and amazing experiences. I’ve learned so much about myself as a person, woman, and partner. Things I said I would never do, I’ve done and found the blessings in them. I’ve learned firsthand as a wife that becoming two is so much more than just saying vows, wearing rings, and living together. Merging yourself with another person is a process, and takes the ability to be able to truly surrender apart of yourself to your other half. In my three years of marriage, I’ve learned what it means to be selfless, supportive, and prayerful.

Wife hood is a rollercoaster. On it, you figure out how to hold on when you truly want to lose it all. When your husband has forgotten the most important things that you asked him to do, and your kids are acting like maniacs, you’re somehow keeping it all together! It’s in that moment that you learn to adapt, and to take on the lows and highs. Some days you will love him like you did on the day you said I do, and others, you will want to intact the “till death do us part,” part quickly. Most importantly, you learn to laugh and enjoy the ride. You start smiling at the simplest of things and finding happiness in the craziest of moments. The only difference with marriage and a rollercoaster is that you can’t get off. It’s a permeant ride, so sit back, buckle up, place your hands securely on bar, and prepare to fly!

As the months go on, Kristal and I, hope to share our greatest moments in marriage and tackle some of the struggles that we all encounter as well. We are Monumental Moms and Wives!

-Kristina “The Wednesday Wife”

 

Motivational Monday- Staying True to You

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Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
– Romans 12:2

Each day, everyday we work hard to better ourselves for those around us. We work to be better wives, stronger moms, thoughtful sisters and daughters, and available friends; but how much do we do for us? How much of us, do we lose in taking care of everyone else? How often, are we conforming to the needs, wants, and beliefs of those around us. Each of us has our own thoughts, dreams, visions, and goals that are often lost in the everyday hustle of life. Apart of being a more together and happier you, is holding on to what you believe in and want out of life.

This week remember who you are, and what you stand for. Fight for the things that you believe in and want. Start creating a plan to achieve the dreams that you have. Most importantly, trust in yourself, and know that your journey is not over, and that greatness is obtainable. If you want that higher position at work, apply. If you are dreaming about starting a new business, begin. If you feel that something unjust is occurring in your community, or to yourself or others, act on it. Monumentals, stay true to who you are!
You have to understand your own personal DNA. Don’t do things because I do them or Steve Jobs or Mark Cuban tried it. You need to know your personal brand and stay true to it.
– Gary Vaynerchuk

Kristina

The Test of Life

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In my opinion, life is a continuum of tests. Motherhood is a test, marriage is a test, and even death is a test. As soon as you pass or fail one, the next test arises. Some of the tests are easy to pass and some will test everything that you have ever believed in; whether it’s your religion or spirituality, your faith in people, your patience-or lack thereof, your endurance and resiliency. Some tests that come your way may almost break you and those that don’t manage to break you will change you into an entirely different person.

Life is really hard sometimes. I often wonder when I see homeless people or people with true mental health illness, if life broke them. I never realized how many people are in a constant state of emotional pain until I lost my mother. I realized then that there are so many sad and hurt people. No wonder there is so much chaos in the world! And when something bad really happens you are expected to just get over it, move on and pretend that everything is ok! Although life has a tendency to literally shake the hell out of you sometimes, the important part is that we keep going, one day at a time. People often make plans for weeks or months down the line; I guess at some point I may have been one of those people, but now, I literally take it one day at a time. Sometimes baby steps are better than no steps at all. My mother was a fighter to the end, so I know she wouldn’t want me or my sister to be any other way.

We have no control over the majority of things that happen to us. We don’t know what tomorrow holds or the next week, but the one thing that we can control is how we react to those things. So when life knocks you down, and trust me it will, just remember to get back up and take baby steps one day at a time.

Kristle~a Monumental Mom!

“When there is darkness there is still light.”