Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.
I believe that many of us can unknowing become full of ourselves. We find something that we are amazing at and allow it to quickly go to our heads. Pride begins to swell up in our chests, and we slowly allow our modesty to slip away. This weeks topic is on having humility. Humility, reminds us that where we are amazing, others can be phenomenal too. When we are focused on feeding our own egos, we build superiority in ourselves. It’s great to be good at many things, however, it’s even better to be humble and respectful. Maintaining our humility, helps us to build character and to stay spiritually grounded.
This week, lets each remember to work on our humility in our careers, with friends, and at home. When we face others struggling with their own pride and vices, let’s also be understanding and supportive of the path that they still need to travel as well. Remember, we all are a work in progress.
” There is no respect for others without humility in one’s self. It was pride that changed angels into devils; it is humility that makes men as angels. Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less. It is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom.”
Welcome to the New Year, Monumental Moms!!! As this year gets started, we just wanted to offer you 12 ways to be an even more amazing mom this year!!
1.Be silly more: we get so caught up in the day to day hustle, that we forget to cut lose and be silly with our little ones. They love seeing mom make funny faces and to roll around the with them.
- Celebrate something different this year: maybe Valentine Day is not your thing, but it could be a fun time to do crafts with the kids or to teach them about something different.
- Plan a vacation somewhere new: kids love visting new places and trying new things. This year find somewhere new and exciting to go. Kids love road trips, boats, planes, and trains.
- Find a new game to play: new games, teach new things. Create or purchase a new game, that you can enjoy together.
- Clear out the old stuff: kids grow fast, so managing clutter is a must. Clear out old clothes, shoes, and toys. It will save you space and stress!
- Go on adventures together: exploring and discovering new things is one of the best ways to build a bond. Go out as often as you can; hike new trials, visit new museums, go to new parks, or just explore nature.
- Be more understanding: as Moms and adults, we don’t always understand the things that seem small to us, but are big to them. Try to be more understanding of their needs, wants, and fears.
- Add new reading material to your home library: a new year, means your child is getting older, and is eager to learn about new things. Reading is one of the most important things to do with your little one, so take out a little more time, to read together.
- Eliminate a bad behavior: our children aren’t perfect and can all improve. This year, work on eliminating at least one of their negative behaviors. Address the behavior, and be firm about resolving it.
- Take out some time for Daddy too: as Moms, we get so caught up in our little ones, that we forget our Big one!! Daddy’s/Husbands, are like kids too. They need just as much love and affection. Don’t forget to love on them a little extra as well.
- Say “yes,” to yourself more: set the money aside for hair and nail appointments. Go to see movies you like alone, have more girls nights, and treat yourself more. If you lose you, you lose part of what makes you the great mom that you are. A happy you, equals a happy everyone else!
- Pray More: Prayer helps us Moms to keep our sanity, to worry less, and to have inner peace.
Kristina – Kristopher’s Mom
“You, God, are my God, earnestly I seek you; I thirst for you, my whole being longs for you, in a dry and parched land where there is no water.” Psalm 63:1 (NIV)
It’s great to be the person that everyone depends on, but we all must have someone that we can depend on as well. We will fill others with consistent love, assistance, advice, time, positivity, and even our very own spirit; however, we don’t replenish ourselves. That’s the difficult part with being a giver, sometimes we give more than we have. When we give more than we have, we leave very little or nothing left for ourselves. We can’t function off of fumes, because those fumes began to choke us and builds darkness inside of us. How are we to spread love and positivity to others, when we have none for ourselves? It’s impossible! As wives, mothers, employees, friends, sisters, and daughters, we have a lot of responsibility, but sometimes we need to take a break from that responsibility and just breath a little.
As we progress through this week, please take a look at your busy schedule and remove somethings that weigh you down. If anyone calls you with negativity or just heaviness, ask them if you can get back to them, once you rebuild yourself a little. Also, add a spa day into your next months plan. As humans, we can only take so much. That doesn’t make us weak, but honest and strong. Strong women understand the importance of replenishing themselves as well.
“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary. ” – Mandy Hale
Although I only have one child, I have done extensive research on the pros and cons of any only children versus children with siblings, LOL. I happen to also have two sisters, so I have experienced some of the pros and cons of being a sibling. In addition, I have two nephews so I am able to regularly observe their interactions first hand and it’s pretty hilarious. I’ve also talked to Moms with more than one child and they have shared their opinions. Below are some pros and cons that I have come up with for only children versus children with siblings based on my research and experience.
• They entertain each other.
• They love each other. A lot. It’s very touching to see the love that siblings can have for one another.
• They have a built-in friend, making them less likely to crave social acceptance and less dependent on outside friendships.
• They have someone to play with other than their parents.
• They can bug their sibling instead of yelling mom every two minutes, which is especially helpful if the sibling is a few years older.
• As parents age and/or become sick, siblings can burden the responsibility of caring for them together instead of alone.
• If the child is needy, they can be needy with their sibling.
• If you are the older sibling then you get better stuff and a bigger room LOL.
• There is never a dull moment.
• You need at least two of everything.
• Your attention will be divided between the two a lot of times.
• Being a strong multi-tasker is a MUST.
• It can be very costly since there is double the expense for everything.
• You can’t buy something for one child without the other.
• They fight. They fight a lot.
• My nephews fight constantly even though they are four years apart.
• The older sibling gets better stuff and a bigger room.
• There is never a dull moment.
Although, I am not yet the mother of two children, based on my research and experience, the pros of siblings greatly outweigh the cons.
From a Mom of two: I think giving your child the gift of a sibling is one of the best gifts you can give them. It definitely comes with challenges, however, when you see the love that they can have on another, that in itself makes it worth it.
But the people thirsted there for water; and they grumbled against Moses and said, “Why, now, have you brought us up from Egypt, to kill us and our children and our livestock with thirst?”
Failing at things, missing appointments, having bad days, poor relationships, stress with kids and husbands, dealing with illness, and being bombarded with responsibilities are all apart of life. They are each just a few things that many of us may experience on a daily basis. Problems have a way of building up on us, and attempting to crush us. When those issues start to weigh us down, we often fall into the habit of self-pity. Self -pity is a nasty little devil that threatens our inner peace, and the people around us. It sneaks up on us, and tosses our minds into a pit of uncontrollable sorrows and annoying self-absorbed unhappiness! Who wants to be stuck in that? More importantly, who wants to be around a person like that?
Bad days, events, things, and times are going to happen, but it’s how we respond to them that matters. It’s okay to vent a little, and even to have a moment of being down, but do not wallow in it. We are what we speak. If we consistently speak in a self-defeating tone, how can we ever expect ourselves to win? Speak life into yourself during the hard times. If you can’t find your smile, force yourself to smile!
“Self-pity is like a thief in the night, robbing us of our joy” -Unknown
For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love.
2 Peter 1:5-7
This is your year to improve your life in any way that you see fit. As the new year begins we are all eager to make changes that will hopefully lead to better lives. The problem with that is, no matter how much weight we want to lose or how much we want to spend less; if we lack self-control, we lack the discipline and courage to truly make any meaningful changes in our lives. Without self-control, we don’t possess the spirit we need to move through the challenges that await us. As we plan and create our resolutions, be sure to prepare for them and pray for the self-control that we need to take them on. Not matter what goals we set, we must be strong and resilient when working towards them. Self-control, is what will keep us from back sliding and cheating ourselves.
This year, as we set out on a new path let’s first get our self-control in order. Gaining self-control requires us to:
- Set realistic goals with realistic outcomes
- Know what it is that you are trying to control (impulsive behaviors, overspending)
- Find an important reason that we fully understand, as to why this goal needs to be met
- Motivate yourself to prepare to reach your goal
- Know that you can conquer anything that you put your mind to
Good luck Monumental Moms!!!
“I have learned that I really do have discipline, self-control, and patience. But they were given to me as a seed, and it’s up to me to choose to develop them.”
– Joyce Meyer