Motivational Monday – Cheerfulness

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A cheerful look brings joy to the heart; good news makes for good health.                                                                                                                                         Proverbs 15:30

I’m not sure if we are born with cheerful spirits, or if we just pick them up as we go along. Having a positive spirit is a good thing, but they don’t seem to all be disbursed equally. As the holidays start to pick up momentum, the people around us will either skip along in cheerfulness, or start falling off into that pit of negativity. Whether we are born naturally bubbly or just acquire that glow along the way, we owe it to ourselves and those around us to be joyful people. We receive no benefit from being miserable or a source of negative energy to others. This is a season of happiness and giving. We should each embrace that, at work, home, and in any other places that we venture to. Spreading cheer is a way to start healing ourselves, from the inside out. None of our lives are perfect, and we have some days that we wish we could skip, but happiness is always a great choice.

This week, let’s each contribute something to this great season. Let’s be a part of the cheerfulness. Rather than just bystanders. Commit to offering smiles, encouragement, help, and anything positive that we can to those that we cross paths with. Happiness is a result of working towards being happy. It is our time to put in work.

“I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance, but by our disposition.”

                                                                                                                                    Martha Washington

-Kristina

Thankful and Supportive

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When I think of Thanksgiving, I think of food, family, memories, and laughter. Thanksgiving for me, marks the beginning of the holiday festivities. I get even more bubbly, and excited as the holiday approaches. It’s a lot of work, especially for moms, and anyone who is hosting and opening their home to others to come and celebrate. The time spent laughing and sharing together always excites me. For others, I know that holidays aren’t always the perfect time of year. For many, the extra work, money, chaos, family, memories, and holidays in general, can be overwhelming and depressing. Holiday depression impacts the lives of many.

Growing up my parents always made sure that we had everything we needed, and a little more. They were sure to make holidays an exciting time for us. As I got older, I noticed that holidays weren’t always an exciting time for my father. He grew up differently than us, and had different memories attached to holidays. I didn’t understand it as a child, but I now better understand the “Holiday Blues,” that some people get. For my father, Thanksgiving, is the start of big holiday time, and stress. The short days, cold weather, and dull light doesn’t help his mood either. He loves seeing us happy, but never seems to reach that same level of joy himself.

As I’ve matured, I have learned to respect the feelings of others during the holidays. Especially, when I noticed that my husband suffers from holiday depression as well. My past has helped me to better cope with holiday depression with others. I’ve learned to offer them the space and love that they need to feel comfortable, to be encouraging, and not take behaviors or attitudes personal. I try to remind those around me that holidays are whatever we decide to make them. They are more than gifts, decorations, and food. Thanksgiving, especially has great meaning. It is a time to be thankful. As this holiday season starts, I just want to share the top 6 things that I am thankful for this year, and I hope that everyone who reads this creates their own list of thankfulness and encourages those around them to as well.

1. Self-evaluation – I’ve learned so much this year about who I am. It has helped me to better understand my passion and happiness.

2. Opportunity – this year, I have been blessed with a great part-time job. It’s not something I really was ever serious about doing, but it just happened and I went with it.

3. Growth – this year I feel that I have grown a lot, but more importantly that my marriage has grown as well.

4. Milestones – watching my son master counting, abc’s, colors, potty training, and many other things has been fulfilling and exciting!

5. Monumental Moms- being able to share in this blog and on IG, has become a major joy for me.

6. Family – I saved the best for last, because without family, I am nothing. They are the glue that holds me together. No matter how big or small you family is, recognize their worth to your life.

This holiday season while laughing, cooking, and sharing memories take a moment to just be thankful. Make sure that you think about and spread love to each person that means something in your life, especially those who suffer from depression during this time, and remind them of why you appreciate having them in your life. 

“Give thanks for the little and you will find a lot.” – Hansa Proverb

Kristopher’s Mommy – Kristina

Motivational Monday – Thankfulness

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Giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. 
                                                                     –  Ephesians 5:20

In life we can be too aggressive, too passive, kind, mean, too much, and even not enough. The one thing that I don’t believe that any of us can be is…. too thankful!. As situations arise, and circumstances change, we generally will lose site of the positive things in our life, and replace it with complaining. The more stressed we began to feel, the less thankful we are. No matter how bad our situations get, we should always confess something to be thankful for. When we are thankful, it shows that we are trusting with God, humble with ourselves, and appreciative of others and all things that contribute to us. It is thankfulness, which gives us strength and peace. Have you ever confessed thankfulness out of your mouth and kept feeling sad? If so, I’m sure that doesn’t happen often. It’s hard to project something positive into the universe, and not be moved in a positive way by it.

This week is Thanksgiving. It’s a time that each of us should be showing gratitude, happiness, and thankfulness. Thanksgiving, is more than food, and the start of major holiday shopping. It’s a time where family and friends tend to come together. It’s a reminder that life’s challenges and disagreements can be overcome with sharing, giving, and love. This week find 5 things or people, that you are thankful for, and share your thankfulness.

Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.

                                                                                                         Oprah Winfrey

Kristina – Kristopher’s Mom

Learn To Be Present During The Holidays

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With the holidays quickly approaching, it’s really easy to lose track of what’s really important and to get caught up in the hype of it all. It’s so easy to over analyze every detail, especially if you’re hosting, or to overspend on Christmas presents. Trust me, when you think back to the memories with your loved ones who one day won’t be around, you won’t remember the food or mistakes or the burned whatever.

You probably won’t even remember who brought you what or the things that you brought for presents that year, however, if you take the time to live in the moment and be present you will remember the feelings, the hugs, the laughs,  the kisses and the smells. Be sure to take plenty of pictures! We all get so busy and preoccupied with entertaining, talking, socializing, etc. that we don’t take as many pictures as we would have liked to. Pictures are not for today they are for the future.

Although I took several pictures with my mother I didn’t take nearly enough! I yearn for the days when we were all too busy being consumed with who knows what or arguing over the dumbest stuff, LOL! This holiday season hug your mother, father, sister, cousin, etc. a little longer and a little tighter because a lot can change in a year. Also try to remember that for some of us this is a hard time of year. So many people are grieving for their loved ones that have passed on.

For me the holidays will never be the same without my mom, but I try my best for my son. I’m thankful to have my dad but a mother’s love is simply irreplaceable. The best advice that I can give people who still have their moms is cherish them and soak up every moment that you can by being present with them. Live your life in a way that you won’t have any regrets.

~Kristle (Kodie’s Mommy)

Motivational Monday – Time

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She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night.

                                                                                                                         Proverbs 31:17-18

Time is the one thing that we waste the most of, and will never be able to get back. When we are young we have a tendency to rush everything! How great would it have been for us to know then, all of the things that we know now? I believe that many of us would have slowed down, and used our time more wisely. As we get older, we pick up new habits like laziness, procrastination, and doubting ourselves. Time in a sense, controls us, and escapes us at the same time. However, we don’t have to allow it to. We are women of purpose and power. Wasting time is not an option for any of us. Our time is our key to success, because when used correctly, we can change our lives.

This week, sit down and review your schedule. If you don’t have a daily planner, purchase one immediately, and use it. Start planning your days out a little more, and watch your productivity increase. Once you learn to better control your time, you will notice yourself accomplishing more. Your time and life is precious, never waste either!

Time = life; therefore, waste your time and waste of your life, or master your time and master your life.

                                                                                                                                                    Alan Lakein

-Kristina

 

 

My Reason for Reading

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Reading has always been a huge part of my life. Being able to sit down and get lost in the pages of a book is one of the most relaxing feelings in the world to me. As a little girl, I remember going into my mom’s room, and nagging her to play with me. I would always had to ask twice, because she would never hear me the first time. She would be so into whatever book she was reading, that she could tone the entire house out. I would ask again, and she would ask me to let her read just one more page before she would play with me. Once I got older…… when I would peek into her room, and see her reading one of her V.C Andrews, or Steven King books, I would hurry into my room, and quickly find a book of my own to curl up and read next to her.  It’s because of her that I fell in love with reading.

Technology has come along, and changed so much. Where all you needed was a book and a little book light, you now need a tablet, and charger to read. Where we once took trips to the library, we now just log on, and click. I have a Nook, and a tablet. I’ll admit that it’s great to have tons of books at my figure tip. However, the experience is different. More importantly, it’s confusing to my son. At first glance he wouldn’t know if I was playing a game, watching a movie, or on Youtube. I believe that technology has raised our children enough. So, I have decided, that as convenient as my “Readers” are, I want my child to see me reading actual books.

To assist with feeding his eager and growing mind, I buy him tons of books that we read daily. I take him for evenings out at Barnes and Nobles, and to libraries. By doing that, I’m not just introducing books to him, but teaching him how to be calm, when to use his inside voice, and how to have fun without running all over the place. As a working mom, it’s nearly impossible to take my son to story time at a library, because they are typically held during morning hours. Our culture is changing, and I want to expose him to the parts that may no longer exist as the years move forward.

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I have recently started back purchasing actual books. Books with covers, pages, and words that we can touch. He sees me take time for myself to read almost every day. I hope that my son will continue to love reading as he gets older, and that we can countinue to share many more wonderful reading times together.

Read to your kids Monumental Moms, and make sure that they see you reading just as much. Remember… they rarely do what we say, but almost always repeat what they see us do.

“There are many little ways to enlarge your world.  Love of books is the best of all.” –                                                      Jacqueline Kennedy
Kristopher’s Mommy, Kristina

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Motivational Monday – Self Worth

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You are beautiful for you are fearfully and wonderfully made.                                                                                                                                  — Pslam 139:14

No matter what anyone says to you. No matter who didn’t love you the way you wanted. No matter how much weight you didn’t lose last month. No matter what employer didn’t promote or hire you. No matter who didn’t appreciate you, or compliment you. No matter what, know that you are amazing. No matter how bad life, and others attempt to attack you, never forget your worth. You are more than what people say, and even greater then what you believe. Many of us have a habit of second guessing ourselves, and counting ourselves out. We get overwhelmed and discouraged, and we began to hold back from ourselves, our potential, careers, and our future. Know that you can accomplish the dreams that you have locked within you. Remember, that you are stronger than each one of your fears. Also, never forget that you have the ability to conquer whatever challenge that you are faced with.

People have a way of discouraging others from living to their full potential. It’s important to keep in mind that those types of people often have agendas. They don’t want to see you living better. They especially don’t want to see you moving to levels above them. If you didn’t get the job, promotion, significant other, or new home that you wanted, keep working. God has heard you, and is either planning to move you elsewhere, preparing you for something better, or protecting you from an unseen outcome. Life will come at us, with so many different things, from so many directions that we must stay confident and focused. When love hurts, keep in mind that pain is strength. When you mess up, know that you can move past it. No matter what, never allow anything to make you forget your worth! Today, decide that you are worthy!

“When you refuse to settle for less than the best…the best tends to track you down.”                                                                                                                                             -MandyHalme

Kisses and Smiles, 
Kristina

Can Women Really Have It All?

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Can women really have it all? More importantly, do we really want it all? Well that is a question that I’ve been asking myself lately. As a full time working mom I often struggle with finding the perfect balance between being a good mom and focusing on my career aspirations.

Being a mom is by far one of my greatest accomplishments; however, I am also proud of my career. When I was younger I wasn’t that interested in school but as I got older, I realized the importance of an education. I managed put myself through college and ultimately became a Parole and Probation agent. I feel that this is just the beginning of my career and I’m excited to see what the future holds. At the same time, I want to be the best mom that I can be which to me means being present. When it comes to advancing my career it will require sacrifice and time away from my son.

I had a conversation with one of my friends who is literally the hardest working woman that I know! She works several jobs, is in real estate school and is pursuing her master’s degree, all while being a mom! Her ultimate goal is to give her two girls the best life possible. She said, “Every good mom feels torn when it comes to being a mom and pursing their career”. There’s no right or wrong decision when it comes to being a stay at home or a working mom. Is there a right or wrong decision when it comes to staying in one position and not pursing your career because you’re a mom?

I would love to hear other mom’s opinions when it comes to work-life and home-life balance!

~Kristle: A monumental mom!