When I think of Thanksgiving, I think of food, family, memories, and laughter. Thanksgiving for me, marks the beginning of the holiday festivities. I get even more bubbly, and excited as the holiday approaches. It’s a lot of work, especially for moms, and anyone who is hosting and opening their home to others to come and celebrate. The time spent laughing and sharing together always excites me. For others, I know that holidays aren’t always the perfect time of year. For many, the extra work, money, chaos, family, memories, and holidays in general, can be overwhelming and depressing. Holiday depression impacts the lives of many.
Growing up my parents always made sure that we had everything we needed, and a little more. They were sure to make holidays an exciting time for us. As I got older, I noticed that holidays weren’t always an exciting time for my father. He grew up differently than us, and had different memories attached to holidays. I didn’t understand it as a child, but I now better understand the “Holiday Blues,” that some people get. For my father, Thanksgiving, is the start of big holiday time, and stress. The short days, cold weather, and dull light doesn’t help his mood either. He loves seeing us happy, but never seems to reach that same level of joy himself.
As I’ve matured, I have learned to respect the feelings of others during the holidays. Especially, when I noticed that my husband suffers from holiday depression as well. My past has helped me to better cope with holiday depression with others. I’ve learned to offer them the space and love that they need to feel comfortable, to be encouraging, and not take behaviors or attitudes personal. I try to remind those around me that holidays are whatever we decide to make them. They are more than gifts, decorations, and food. Thanksgiving, especially has great meaning. It is a time to be thankful. As this holiday season starts, I just want to share the top 6 things that I am thankful for this year, and I hope that everyone who reads this creates their own list of thankfulness and encourages those around them to as well.
1. Self-evaluation – I’ve learned so much this year about who I am. It has helped me to better understand my passion and happiness.
2. Opportunity – this year, I have been blessed with a great part-time job. It’s not something I really was ever serious about doing, but it just happened and I went with it.
3. Growth – this year I feel that I have grown a lot, but more importantly that my marriage has grown as well.
4. Milestones – watching my son master counting, abc’s, colors, potty training, and many other things has been fulfilling and exciting!
5. Monumental Moms- being able to share in this blog and on IG, has become a major joy for me.
6. Family – I saved the best for last, because without family, I am nothing. They are the glue that holds me together. No matter how big or small you family is, recognize their worth to your life.
This holiday season while laughing, cooking, and sharing memories take a moment to just be thankful. Make sure that you think about and spread love to each person that means something in your life, especially those who suffer from depression during this time, and remind them of why you appreciate having them in your life.
“Give thanks for the little and you will find a lot.” – Hansa Proverb
Kristopher’s Mommy – Kristina