Motivational Monday – Creating “Me Time”

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So they went away by themselves in a boat to a solitary place.

                                                         Mark 6:32

Life has convinced us that only the weak take time out to gather them self. We hear people proudly boast, about how they have no time for themselves. What way is that to live? Providing ourselves with a chance to have, “Me time,” is what gives us the ability to conquer the challenges that we encounter in our day-to-day lives. Without ample time to reacquaint ourselves, with who we are, we have no strength and we move with clouded judgement. Our days are so overrun with one task after another. We work, take care of home, attend extra curricula activities, and so many other things that we have little alone time left to just relax and checkup on “us.” Monday through Friday, we are like rats in a race; simply trying to make it from one day to the next. Then, once the weekend arrives all of our plans to take some time out for ourselves are pushed aside with outings, dinners, and celebrations. We so frequently live without a moment to breathe.

It’s important to us to be great at work and at home, but we must first learn to be great to ourselves. Personal time is not something we fit into our schedule, but what we must always schedule to happen. We weren’t created to only love others; it’s our duty to love ourselves as well. This week, let’s each make sure that we are spending some time on our own, doing whatever calms us. Don’t use this time to plan or budget, but to have genuine down time to ourselves.

Every person needs to take one day away. A day in which one consciously separates the past from the future. Jobs, family, employers, and friends can exist one day without any one of us, and if our egos permit us to confess, they could exist eternally in our absence.  Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions searched for.  Each of us needs to withdraw from the cares which will not withdraw from us.

                                                          Maya Angelou

Kristopher’s Mom

The Pain of Growing Pains….

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“When God wants you to grow he makes you uncomfortable.”
I was just debating with myself and trying to figure out a topic for my blog post for the week with no luck…then I was scrolling through Facebook and saw this “when God wants you to grow he makes you uncomfortable.” So, I guess I found the topic for my post! The universe truly works in mysterious ways! One of my favorite books is ” The Secret-by Rhonda Byrne” it’s a great book about the universe and the law of attraction. Ultimately, what we put out into the universe comes back to us be it good or bad.

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But, back to the topic at hand, I truly believe that when God wants you to grow, he makes you uncomfortable. The ironic part is that my sister and I were just having this conversation this past weekend and I was telling her that God is always pushing me to do more and to be more because unlike some other people that I know, I haven’t been allowed to be comfortable. With every job that I’ve had there has been some level of discomfort, even when I’ve allowed myself to try to get to a certain level of comfort something happens to keep me on my toes.

I would say that most people don’t pursue change until they get uncomfortable. It’s easier to stay in your comfort zone versus stepping out of the box. Change can be pretty painful especially when it doesn’t look or feel the way that you envisioned. One of my favorite saying is “want to make God laugh, keep making plans.” Our plan for ourselves versus god’s plan typically differ from what we envisioned!

I’ll be the first to admit that I’m a bit of a control freak. I like things to be neat, organized and in perfect order. I often get frustrated and impatient when things don’t work out according to my plan. One of the biggest lessons that I’ve learned since becoming a mom is that I’m not in control. At my first prenatal doctor’s appointment while pregnant with Kodie the doctor told me that my due date was 3/25/14. Then about a month or so later, that date was changed to 2/23 and finally when I was around eight-months pregnant I was told that my due date would be 3/1. God, howver, had other plans and so did Kodie. He made his grand entrance on 2/5/14, four days before my baby shower LOL. Luckily, I was able to make it to my baby shower but this wasn’t part of my plan Lol!

Sometimes you just have to get out of your own way and allow God and the universe to work its magic!

~Kristle (Kodie’s Mommy)

 

Motivational Monday – New Beginnings

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Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.

Isaiah 43:19

The beginning of the school year always makes me stop and evaluate the things that I need to accomplish and the additional goals that I need to set. As the kids return to school, we can also start a new path as well. The opportunity to start fresh is the chance to grow and build. In life we frequently will feel as if we are backed into a corner that we can’t get out of, but that is the furthest thing from the truth! We have a chance to change every day. Every morning that we open our eyes we can take on a new challenge to accomplish something different. It doesn’t have to always be something major; it can be something simple as thinking more positively or taking a 10 minute walk.

Today, for this week, let’s set the goal of starting something new. It can be a new approach to dealing with others, a new workout routine, a new book, or setting a new goal. Great things happen when we are moving forward!

I have always been delighted at the prospect of a new day, a fresh try, one more start, with perhaps a bit of magic waiting somewhere behind the morning.

-J. B. Priestly

Motivational Monday – Pride

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When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.

                                                  Proverbs 11:2

Pride can be either a positive or negative thing in our lives. It is great to have pride in yourself and to be proud of those around you. However, it is distasteful to be prideful. Oxford Dictionaries defines pride as; “A feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired.” We should each rejoice and take pleasure in our accomplishments and the accomplishments of those around us. Being able to acknowledge your own accomplishments, builds self-confidence. Celebrating the achievements of others shows humility and respect. It is when we allow our ego to take over too much and become contemptuous individuals that we are in trouble. People don’t respond well to know-it-all types. That type of pride could leave us lonely or place us in some bad situations. Pride is a balance. You have to be in a space where you recognize your greatness or the greatness of others, but have no need to gloat about it or degrade others with it.

Self-confidence is what makes us strong enough to take challenges and to challenge others. It allows us to function, even with the fear of failing. Just make sure that you don’t allow that confidence to alter into cockiness. Strive to be balanced Monumentals!

“A man’s pride can be his downfall, and he needs to learn when to turn to others for support and guidance.”

Bear Grylls

Kristopher’s Mom

The “Pocket” Conversation

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The other day, I had a very interesting conversation with Kristopher. As always, right before bedtime, he has to pee and poo. It’s interesting to me that he doesn’t remember that at any other time of the day; well, unless he wants a sticker. He will gladly hop on the pot when he wants a sticker. This particular evening, while he’s sitting on the pot, he asks for his pot book. Once he received it, he opens it and flips up all the flaps to laugh at all of the funny sounds. Of course, one minute into being on the pot and doing absolutely nothing, he wants toilet paper to wipe his butt and to flush the toilet. Once I explain three times that he can’t do either of those things until he poops or pees, he goes back to looking at his book. I point out all of the big boys using the bathroom on the pot and ask him if he’s going to be a big boy like them. He looks up at me with a big grin and says, “No, Mommy, I told you that I don’t want to be a big boy!” I start naming all of his big boy friends that use the bathroom and point at each of the big boys on their pot. I ask him where do they each use the bathroom and he replies, “On the pot.” I tell him how cool it would be if he did too, and he suddenly the big smile disappears and he replies, “No, not cool.” However, he continues tell me that he likes wearing Pampers. I correct him and tell him that he wears Pullups. He corrects me and says, “No, Nommy, they are Pampers that you pull up.” At this point, I understand that I am totally losing the battle, so when he changed the topic, I was a little relieved.

Thankfully, the next page contained pictures of boys in underwear. Kristopher liked the idea of underwear for about ten minutes. After ten minutes of wearing underwear, he will ask me to put his Pamper on, and I’ll refuse. He will then go find a Pullup, take the underwear off, and place his Pullup on himself. As we are looking at the book together, I start talking about all the cool character underwear that big boys get to wear. I’m still training myself to say “underwear” and not “panties.” I’m a girly girl, so “panties” are much more natural for me to say than “underwear,” but for him, I try to remember to say “underwear.” On this day, I slipped and said “panties” and he was right on it! He said, “Mommy, boys wear underwear.” I asked him why, and was totally unprepared for the answer. He explained to me that boys underwear have a “Wee Wee pocket,” where their penis goes. He further educated me that boys underwear have “Wee Wee holders.” I asked him what a “Wee Wee holder” was, and he told me “A pocket to hold his penis.” I’m sure the look on my face was priceless. I have no idea where he gets this stuff from, but I guess he’s right about that one. So, since then, we have agreed a little more about him wearing underwear, because he wants his “Wee Wee” to be in pocket! Monumental moms, I’m going to need some monumental help raising this little boy!

Kristopher’s Mom

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Motivational Monday – Rest

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“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”

                                            Matthew 11:28

Life has a way of moving faster than we want it to. There are days that we all feel as if we are chasing behind ourselves and desperately trying to keep up. As technology has changed, so has time and society. We are now living in a fast-paced, quick fix, and get it all done today world. Without even noticing it many of us are exhausted. Being a woman in today’s society complicates things even more. We work, assist our partners, and raise our kids. We wear so many hats: employee/boss, wife, mother, friend, daughter, volunteer, church member, and about 20 others. Each one of those hats demands our immediate attention in our minds. They also each drain our energy and eliminate the time that we have to actually rest.

Remember ladies rest is extremely important and there is nothing lazy about it. Our lives and bodies need it to truly function well. We have to take time out and rest. I’ve read studies that the average adult needs about 6 to 8 hrs asleep a night. Are you getting that? It’s also a good idea to get some breaks in during the day. Take 15 minutes out of you day, daily to just rest. Use that time to clear your heart and mind, so that your body is able to rest a litte. Let’s all start this week.

“Rest time is not waste time. It is economy to gather fresh strength… It is wisdom to take occasional furlough. In the long run, we shall do more by sometimes doing less.” 

– Charles Spurgeon

Kristopher’s Mommy

Mommy Guilt

Mommy guilt is something that every mother experiences. For me, I experience it quite often. I can say that I’m definitely my worst critic! As a mother, there’s a lot of pressure. You’re responsible for a human being after all! There are always decisions to make like what’s the best daycare or school to send your child to; should I buy dinner to save time or do I make dinner? Should I put my child in extra- curricular activities? Do I buy this particular fruit that’s on sale even though it’s not organic? LOL! Do I make him an only child or do I give him a sibling?!

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Then, there’s the questioning within ourselves like are other mothers judging and mom shamming me when my child acts out in public or because my son refuses to use the pot and isn’t potty trained?

Do I work too much and do I spend enough time with my son? The list goes on and on, but I suppose it’s normal to ask these questions and to have guilt. After all, I guess the mere fact that I’m writing about this shows how much I care. As moms and women it’s important to support each other! Every now and then try telling another mom she’s doing a good job! This really does go a long way. Remember to take it one day at a time and don’t be so hard on yourself, mama!

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Oh and by the way, the movie Bad Moms was awesome! If you haven’t seen it yet, take a group of girlfriends and go!

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Motivational Monday – Temptation

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“Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.”

Matthew 26:41

We all face some level of temptation daily and not just the temptation of attraction to someone other than our spouse. We each deal with the temptation to live, preform, and behave at a level less than our potential. On any given day, we face the temptation to be negative or mean when we could be positive. Temptation can attack us from many directions, we are often faced with the temptation to take in moments that we should give, and to flee when we should stay. In addition to those, there are so many other temptations that we encounter and probably don’t even notice. Temptation attempts to lure us away from the things that can make us better. It seeks to eat at and eventually destroy the good parts of who we are and what we could become.

To be able to fight against and resist the temptation that arises daily, we must first acknowledge that they exist. We so often make excuses for the things that we are uncomfortable with changing. That lack of acknowledgement provides opportunity for those temptations to continue to grow. We have to face them head on and make the decision to sometimes take the harder and less desirable roads. Don’t allow temptation to continue to be a weakness for you. Decide today that things may be a little more difficult, but that with the right decisions they will get better.

“Artistic self-indulgence is the mark of an amateur. The temptation to make scenes, to appear late, to call in sick, not to meet deadlines, not to be organized, is at heart the sign of your own insecurity and at worst the sign of an amateur.”

Harold Prince

 

-Kristopher’s Mom