When your baby turns about 18 months, they call it “the terrible two’s”…now I know why. Before I had my son (Kodie), I would see toddlers in public misbehave all of the time. Sometimes I wouldn’t think much of it, but there have been times when I’ve witnessed them scream and cry and I would think “wow that kid is a brat!” LOL. I’ve seen the frustration on their parents’ faces. Some parents would even have to physically discipline their toddlers in public!
Well now that I am a mom, I’ve experienced the toddler meltdowns more times that I can count! Now I can relate to what other parents have been going through! Unfortunately, toddlers don’t care if people are around or if he or she is too loud. They don’t care if you are at a restaurant eating or just out running errands. All they know and care about is that they didn’t get their way or they are tired and or hungry.
My son Kodie first started having tantrums around 1 1/2 but they fully reached their peak by 2. He has fallen out on the floor and literally kicked and screamed because I wouldn’t let him take his favorite toy to daycare or have his way. Sometimes his reasons aren’t even logical at all, LOL. Toddler meltdowns can’t always be avoided and sometimes they will happen at the most inopportune times. I literally have been in restaurants and had to walk outside because Kodie turned into Mr. Lungs, the screamer! Here are 4 simple tips to help minimize those terrible tantrums when possible:
1. Try not to over schedule your child’s day. ⚽️⚽️⚾️⚾️🏉🏉🏉🏀🏀🏈As mothers, we have so much on our plates and only a little bit of time to get things done. For me, Saturdays are typically when I go grocery shopping for the week and run errands. I might also have an activity planned or a playdate for Kodie. I have learned that every child is different but for Kodie, if he is out running around all day and he hasn’t had a nap then 9 times out of 10 he’s going to have a meltdown! There have been times where I would have to either eliminate an activity or leave him home if possible while I’m out running errands.
2. Know your child’s personality. Some toddlers will go with the flow and they don’t need much of a schedule because they are very adaptable, but this is not the case for Kodie. He needs a routine. During the week his routine is pretty standard. He wakes up around 6:50-7am, gets dressed and goes to daycare. In the evening he plays, eats dinner, has a bath and story time and he’s in bed and sleep by 8-8:30. During the weekend, however, things can sometimes get off-track. Unfortunately, 8pm for Kodie is bewitching hour, LOL! Typically, if I’m out past 8pm with Kodie, he’s going to turn into Mr. Lungs! He’s a child that is used to his routine. He may not go to bed on the weekends at 8 or 8:30 but he prefers to be home relaxing in his PJ’s around that time. If he is not, then he has no problem letting me know that he’s annoyed LOL.
3. Make sure your child is full and napped. Sometimes Kodie refuses to take a nap but it’s essential that he eats. He’s not the kind of child that I can happily run errands with when he’s hungry and tired. Hunger and fatigue are two of the biggest pitfalls for toddler meltdowns. If you’re in a rush, pack your child’s lunch or a snack and take it with you until you can get somewhere to feed your child.
4. Sometimes you just have to cry/ride it out! 😰😰😰😰😪😪😪😪When dealing with a toddler tantrum sometimes you just have to ride it out. The trick is to not give in. Sometimes there’s nothing you can do and a full on tantrum is going to occur. Yes, it’s embarrassing when you’re out and it’s not fun when everyone is looking at you when your child is the one having the tantrum, but it’s important to be as relentless and these little guys. If your child knows that kicking, screaming, and acting like a fool will ultimately get him or her their way then guess what, that’s what they will do. If calmly talking to your child doesn’t work and they are irrational to the point where words are useless then ignore them. Yes, it’s easier said than done, but your only other option is to give in which just reinforces to them that this behavior is effective.
-Kristle, Kodie’s Mommy.