“How beautifully everything is arranged by Nature; as soon as a child enters the world, it finds a mother ready to take care of it.” -Jule MIchelet
Since becoming a mom, my life has changed DRASTICALLY! The first few weeks were a whirlwind of emotions. I was so ecstatic to no longer be pregnant…… I literally felt like I dropped a load, LOL. I was overjoyed with my precious newborn baby boy but simultaneously, I was beyond exhausted but too amped up and anxious to really sleep. I was so scared that he would stop breathing in the middle of the night (Yikes!) so even when he slept I was awake. I was beyond anxious and even scared to leave him in a room unattended even for a few minutes. I remember that I was so nervous to give him his first bath because he was so little and I didn’t want to drop him! One day, my sister was holding Kodie and she smelled him and said that he didn’t smell so good and that he needed a bath ASAP LOL. I learned that night how to give my baby a bath and I overcame that fear.
The first time that I took my son out of the house by myself was such a struggle, but the baby needed to go to his doctor’s appointment and my husband (Keith) had to work. I remember thinking that the people were driving way too fast and the road was just not safe enough for a newborn, LOL. After I safely got us to the doctors, I then struggled with how to get the car seat out of the base! I called Keith and he told me what to do, LOL…that day was such a struggle. I say all of this to say that as a first time mom, all of these tasks were overwhelming initially; from bathing the baby, to breast feeding, to leaving the house for the first time with the baby.
After I became a mom, I felt as though other women had sugar-coated what life is really like after the baby is born and I didn’t really know what to expect. Women would often tell me about all of the fun and cute stuff regarding their babies but not about the real and disgusting parts! That’s why I thought it might be useful to compose a few tips for new Moms:
1. Babies are cute and adorable. They are soft and so cuddly and you just want to snuggle with them! That new baby smell is awesome, but don’t be fooled! They are disgusting little creatures, LOL! Be prepared to get peed on, pooped on, and vomited on! These little creatures are uninhibited and they don’t care anything about your nice outfit! I strongly suggest that before leaving the house, take a minute or two to look in the mirror and look for any hidden throw up stains on your clothes and in your hair! Trust me, I learned the hard way and was at work already when I noticed throw-up in my hair and stains on my sweater (SMH)!
2. Don’t go overboard with expensive and high end label clothing. It’s so much fun to dress your little one up, but let’s be real; before you can even get them out of the house and to your destination they will most likely have spit up, spilled food and/or milk, and peed or pooped his or her clothes out! Plus, you spend all of this money on clothes to dress them up and to sit in the house. I mean really…where are they going besides doctor’s appointments and to run errands with you? LOL. Sometimes I would just dress Kodie up in his clothes before he outgrew them and would take pictures in them, LOL. These little babies grow sooo fast it’s crazy!! Before you know it you will be donating or giving away an entire wardrobe that your little baby has outgrown in a matter of months.
3. You will never eat in peace AGAIN (unless the baby is asleep). Kodie could have just finished eating but if he sees me eating something then he will bug for my food. There have been times that he literally climbed up me for my food, SMH! These little people have super hearing and it’s as if they hear you chewing from far, far away! You can be eating something and all of a sudden they will stop everything to get whatever you have! Sometimes I have to hide in a corner to eat a quick snack, LOL.
4. You will never sleep Again!!! Well maybe you will once your little one sleeps through the night; however, I still don’t know what that’s like (SMH) but that’s another topic for another day, LOL. For me, this was the hardest transition of all because I love to sleep! Even if you happen to have the luxury of finding sleep, you will sleep with one eye open! It won’t be a restful sleep. Once you become a mom, you develop super hearing and any kind of sounds of discomfort such as coughing, sneezing, or just plain old loud breathing will instantly wake you. As a mom, you are on the clock 24-7 and you are always on guard, even in the middle of the night.
5. Babies get sick all of the time! You can take vitamins and breast feed to build up their immunity….that’s great, however, unless you can keep your child in a bubble, they will get sick often; especially if they are in daycare or around other children. It may be a common cold or virus, but none the less a baby with a cold is still quit miserable. As soon as my son is getting over a cold another kid in daycare is coughing and I just say noooooo to myself because I already know that he will have another cold again. I guess it makes sense that babies and toddlers stay sick because everything (and I mean EVERYTHING) goes into their mouths!!! One time I caught my son trying to lick the trash can SMH! I mean really?!!! These babies have no boundaries when it comes to putting objects in their mouth….it gives me chills just thinking about it.
6. Don’t be so hard on yourself Momma. These little people don’t come with instruction manuals, although they should LOL. Just try to stay in the hospital after giving birth as long as you can (I’m serious) LOL. The nurses in the hospital are great and really helpful but once it’s time to go home they will send you on your way and wish you well and before you know it your home with a baby! As a new Mom you have to be able to think on your feet! Babies typically don’t tell you when they are going to have a blow-out in public. This happened to me when Kodie was a couple months old. We were waiting to take pictures and all of a sudden I smelled something. When I went to change him I saw that his entire outfit was ruined! Luckily, I had another one but it wasn’t the one that I wanted him to take his pictures in.
7. Your instincts will kick in! Being a Mom is trial and error; there is no right way or wrong way. All that matters is that you and your baby are comfortable with your decisions as a mother. You will mess up and make mistakes along the way but it’s OK. Everyone from your mother to your grandmother to your spouse’s mother’s mother will have advice and try to tell you what to do with your baby. At the end of the day, this is your experience as a first time mom. After all, you grew your baby inside of you and took care of him or her for 40 weeks so you definitely can take care of the baby once he or she is born. All babies really need is love, milk, sleep and a dry pamper.
~Kristle (A Monumental Mommy)
Mom-A title just above Queen