I recently received a notification that Kristina and I have officially posted 100 blog posts to our WordPress website! We are both super excited! We started with just an idea and the goal was to become bloggers, LOL. Today I would say that our goals have expanded. We both love the connection that we make with people and the ability to put something positive out into the universe! In addition, we are both passionate about motherhood and love talking about our sons (LOL), so we figured why not write about them and our experiences of motherhood! It feels really good to look back on previous posts and know that we created something that is entertaining, helpful and so special to us. Kristina and I started when our boys were around 1 ½ and now they are both 3 years old. Whew, time sure does fly! Below I have compiled a few tips for people who would like to start blogging.
1. Blog like no one is reading.
This allows you to be your true and authentic self. I kind of view blogging as a diary; it can be very therapeutic to release your thoughts and ideas.
2. Write about topics that you want to read about.
This is often how I decide what my next topic will be about. We are all super busy, especially those Moms with little babies or super active toddlers LOL, so it’s important to get straight to the point and make the blog interesting.
3. Add pictures.
I find that pictures help to keep people’s attention, especially if the post is lengthy; the pictures kind of break it up. In addition, some people are visual like me, and the pictures help to draw people in.
4. Just don’t quit.
Like anything else consistency is key. Set a realistic expectation and make sure that you hold yourself accountable to it. There are times when you are super busy or life happens to get in the way, don’t get discouraged. Just read and keep blogging.
5. Last but not least…..have fun.
Blogging can be fun, not always but there are times when it is. In order to make blogging fun, be sure to write about fun topics or something that makes you laugh!
-Kristle (A Blogging Mom)
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“Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil.”
– Ephesians 5:15-16
We often find ourselves somehow just moving through the days. Today is Monday, and next thing we know it’s Friday. We have no idea how we have gotten here, or what we’ve done in the time between; yet somehow, we have arrived here! We move throughout our days without a plan, lack of emotion, and no destination. If we have a plan, it’s typically just to make it to the weekend. If we have feeling, it’s anticipation for the weekend. That is not living wisely, and doesn’t allow for us to maximize our days. We have so much life to live every day, let’s not waste any of it. It’s our mission to master our days! To ensure that at work we are given our most, that we are providing our families with our greatest selves and saving some of us, for us as well!
This week, we must look forward to living beyond the weekend, the vacation days, holidays, and off days. We all must learn to live in the now all the time, so that we are allowed to make the most of our entire lives, rather than just select days of it. Being able to make use of our days, means that we are better able to create a plan for our futures. Let’s be present always.
“If you don’t know exactly where you’re going, how will you know when you get there?” – Steve Maraboli
- Kristina G.
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
I am probably one of the most anxious people in the world. I literally worry about everything: the good, bad, and just upcoming. Anxiousness seems to be a natural part of me, but I know that it’s something that can’t stay. Finding peace of mind is important in our daily lives, because that peaceful place is where we can settle safely. Living without a safe place, is like consistently fighting a battle that will never end. We must all be able to have a place in our lives and minds to retreat to. We must voice our needs and trust that they will be delivered, if we are meant to receive them. That’s where most of us struggle. It’s hard to accept that what we want, is not what we always need.
Some ways that I have been finding to get to that place of peace is through prayer, positive affirmations, and walking. Prayer reminds me that there is already someone greater than me, working on my behalf, for all the things I have prayed for, and for the things that I haven’t even thought of. The positive affirmations empower me, and encourage me, to move throughout my day without fear. Lastly, the walks give me a chance to clear my mind, while building my body. We each must find our special place to make peace with ourselves daily. It won’t always be easy, but it will always be worth it!
Dedicate yourself to the good you deserve and desire for yourself. Give yourself peace of mind. You deserve to be happy. You deserve delight.
I don’t believe that the life, actions, or nature of a mother can be defined. There is no precise way to bottle up everything that entails a mom into one definition. Moms are fluent, we are forever changing and evolving into what our families need. Take a moment to think of the process of becoming a mother. Our organs and bones shift, our hormones change, and our body grows to protect and accommodate a new life form. From those profound changes, we begin the process of forever changing. Chemically and internally our minds and bodies alter to make us more nurturing. Our bodies understand that we must produce milk and it magically does! Change for mothers doesn’t just stop there though. Watch a predator approach a mother animal’s offspring in the wild, you will see her immediately tense up and prepare to fight to the death. Every cell inside of her compels her to save her child’s life and potentially lose her own. As human mothers, we are no difference. It’s a instinct that’s triggered with motherhood. The changes don’t stop there. As our children age, we learn to be their friends, enemies, teachers, and so much more. The essence of motherhood is breathtaking.
If that doesn’t amaze you, look at the bond that mothers share with their children. Every ounce of pain that a child feels, a mother feels in tons. When we watch our babies sleep, we lay there exhausted, but unable to take our eyes off them. When our children become afraid or nervous they naturally search for us to comfort them. What amazes me the most, is how at birth they already know our voice and can detect us by smell.
I wrote all of that to say, if for any reason someone doesn’t celebrate Mother’s Day, or see it as such a big deal, they need to rethink their logic. Mothers are the backbone of humanity and the beauty that we see in the world. This Mother’s Day, I want every mother to be celebrated with love and appreciation. Moms……. know that without us, there is no anything. We are amazing!!!
Happy Mother’s Day Monumental Moms
-Kristina (Kristopher’s Mom)
There is no better way to start your day or week, than with positive affirmations. Reciting positive words to yourself, can boost your outlook and combat negative thoughts. The same way we nourish our body with food and water, we must nourish our minds with positivity and love.
1. A river of compassion washes away my anger and replaces it with love.
2. Happiness is my birthright. I embrace happiness as my set point state of being.
3. I breathe in calmness and breathe out nervousness.
4. I feed my spirit. I train my body. I focus my mind. It’s my time.
5. Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it..
6. When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.
7. If you want to achieve greatness stop asking for permission. If you do what you always did, you will get what you always got.
8. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
9. Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.
10. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection
I’ve compiled some tips that I would not only use myself, but I would offer to an expecting first time mom. You can never fully prepare for the drastic change of motherhood, but you can try to plan as best as possible.
1. Take a vacation with your spouse.
It can be a weekend getaway, but it’s important to savor the alone time because once the baby comes, it might be a while before you two get some alone time!
2. Treat yourself to something really nice!
Now is the time to splurge before the baby’s arrival LOL! I mean it! Truly treat yourself to something that you have been eyeing but just haven’t purchased because you are trying to be practical. Trust me, once the baby is born your finances and priorities change! Your needs, wants, and desires will take a backseat immediately!
3. Savor the quietness.
Once you have a baby there won’t be a lot of quiet time. Especially if the baby is hungry, sleepy, teething, etc. I never realized how much I liked the quiet until I became a mom, LOL!
4. Appreciate your body now!
I have a few friends who don’t have children yet and they are often really critical of their bodies. Although your body may not be perfect pre-baby it will definitely be different after growing and birthing a baby.
5. Live in the moment.
Be adventurous and do things that you would not normally do before the baby comes. Getting out of our own comfort zone is hard! But once you become a mother, you feel a sense of empowerment and feel that you can do almost anything! You just may not have the time to do it, LOL!
6. Sleep now while you can!
Sleep like you’ve never slept before, LOL!! If you are tired, take a nap. If you are bored, tap a nap. If you are feeling adventurous take off work and take a nap! Sleep will never be the same post-baby, even once they sleep throughout the night your sleeping habits are never the same. You are on constant alert even when sleeping, LOL.
7. Cook and Freeze.
Once the baby comes, you won’t feel like cooking for a while. Toward the end of your pregnancy, cook some of your favorite foods and freeze them. You will thank yourself later!
To other moms, please feel free to leave some of your tips that you would give to an expecting Mom!
Isaiah 40:31 (GNTD) But those who trust in the Lord for help will find their strength renewed. They will rise on wings like eagles; they will run and not get weary; they will walk and not grow weak.
One of the most difficult things for any of us to do is to wait. We live in a culture where waiting feels consuming and makes us upset. The problem with not waiting is that we can miss our blessings. Waiting is a form of discipline, it shows our strength and our resilience. Learning to wait, applies to many areas of our lives. Imagine all the wasted relationships that we could have avoided if we would have waited for the right person. When we learn to wait, God favors us for it. Waiting is a skill that we have to become proficient at to succeed in life and to gain all that God has to offer us.
The problem with waiting, is that it’s not easy to do. We become restless and give up too quickly. We fall short of all the things that we could have received, because we walk away too soon. This week, slow down and find the moments that require your patience and practice the process of waiting.
“Patience is power.
Patience is not an absence of action;
rather it is “timing”
it waits on the right time to act,
for the right principles
and in the right way.”
Fulton J. Sheen
Spring break this year fell the same week as my son’s 3rd Birthday and I wanted him to have an amazing time. I planned a trip for him to visit his Godmother and to enjoy some wonderful places in California. The trip was a 5-day trip and we had an absolute ball. We flew from Baltimore to California on a direct flight and besides him getting a little too tired it wasn’t bad. The flight back is a different story though. It was the longest day that I have ever had in the airport. We arrived at the airport at about 4:45am and our flight was scheduled to depart at 7:15am. The problem was that we fly standby, because my husband works for the airlines. This day we were bumped multiple times because of storms and the Holiday weekend. It was here that I learned some things about managing a toddler in the airport!
5 Flight Tips:
- Pack plenty of different things to entertain them. When waiting for extended periods in the airport or on flights, having backup books and toys always comes in handy. During our time, Kristopher played with his tablet, Spider-Man, toy animals, and read some books!
- Be prepared for them to get antsy. It’s difficult for me to sit still for long, so it really doesn’t shock me when sitting in a seat for a 5-hour flight gets difficult for a 3-year-old. Once they get off that plane, they are ready to stretch their legs. Before, the flight and after I allowed Kristopher to have short races in not so busy areas. As we moved from one terminal to another, I would also play racing games with him to help him keep up with my pace!
- Make sure that they eat and have plenty of snacks! Kristopher, is always a much better person when he has a full tummy. It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of traveling, especially when flying, but food is important. Make sure you eat as well. Parents are much more patient when we aren’t hungry.
- Expect to talk to lots of people!!! People seem to be drawn to children and enjoy having conversing with them. It seemed like everywhere we went, we met someone different who had something to share with Kristopher. There were times where he was finally quiet and I just wanted to zone out, but was stuck entertaining a new person Kristopher had met.
- Ensure that your toddler is sociable and knows personal information about himself and his family. During this recent flight, I developed a bad migraine that made my vision blurry, my head pound, and made me throw up. I remember taking off for the trash can and dragging poor Kristopher threw tons of people with me. Before my entire world came pouring out of me, I heard him yelling mommy, and realized that he was no longer holding my hand. I was paralyzed with fear. I hunted everywhere for him and started to sweat. Just as I was about to lose it, I heard my name called over the intercom, telling me that Kristopher was at Gate 16 waiting for me. I was so relieved. The customer service representatives where amazed at how much he knew. He told them that they were strangers and that his “mommy was sick.” He gave them his full name and my name. He was also able to tell them his age and that he was flying home to Baltimore. I was extremely proud that he could give them the information needed for me to find him, and that he speaks so well.
Moms, remember when flying with little ones, we can never be too safe or too prepared. I learned a lot from our trip and I look forward to creating even easier future trips.
-Kristina (Kristopher’s Mom)
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:6-7
It always bothers me to hear others tell people that anxiety means that one has little faith, because I believe that anxiety is natural for some people. Anxiety is defined as: “a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.” There are many types of anxiety, where some can be bad, others can be manageable and natural. Anxiety can sneak up on the most faithful, and cause great discomfort in their daily lives. Especially, if it’s big worries over little things. It is my belief that you can have strong faith, and still experience moments of anxiety. Your faith makes you feel sure that you will have the greatest outcome, whether it’s a what you want, or not. Anxiety will often show itself by having you worry about when the yes or no will arrive. To combat that, replace the thoughts and continue your day. Never allow your worries to weigh you down.
If you are struggling with a natural mild level of anxiety, relax! Try to involve yourself in things that will distract your mind from overthinking, continue to pray, and remind yourself that you are great regardless of the outcome. Ignore those who don’t speak positivity into your spirit, and be sure to whisper positive words to anyone that you meet who is struggling as well. Also, keep in mind that sometimes our anxieties can be our instincts warning us about things. Trust in yourself always.
“Worrying is carrying tomorrow’s load with today’s strength- carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.
Corrie ten Boom
As a working mom my days are long. Between the work hat, mom hat, and the wife hat I’m mentally and physically exhausted by the end of the day! Sometimes just a few minutes of alone time is a big deal! Motherhood is definitely the hardest job on the planet! My son literally calls me mom or mommy over a hundred times a day lol! When he needs something he doesn’t ask his dad, nope he asks me. Sometimes when he’s talking, I’ll zone out, LOL, then he will ask questions to make sure I’m listening! SMH.
Sometimes, on those really hard days when everything is going wrong with the toddler tantrums and stubbornness and my husband is irking my soul, I want to scream and just quit! But as a mom you are a lifetime employee, LOL! My son is very needy and he wants to touch me even when I don’t want to be touched, LOL. But then I remember that I’m the constant in his life. He knows that if he has a boo boo, mommy will kiss it. If he’s scared of something mommy will make sure he’s no longer afraid. When he wants to be cuddled, then mommy will be there. He knows when he has a nightmare and wakes up screaming mommy will come running. He knows that mommy will comfort him whenever he needs it.
Sometimes I’ll think that I’m winning when I put Kodie to bed at a decent time, but then an hour or so later he will come downstairs looking for me and I really want nothing more than to put him right back to bed so that I can have a moment to myself! But then he will say “I need my mommy” and in those moments I remember that I’m his EVERYTHING! One day these will all be memories for me but for him these moments will be his foundation; the foundation that will make him a caring and compassionate human being, an awesome man, and a future husband and father someday. I’ve been blessed with an enormous role! I get to be somebody’s Everything!
~Kristle (Somebody’s Everything)